SAH/WOH - Why?

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Registered: 11-18-2005
SAH/WOH - Why?
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Mon, 02-20-2006 - 7:41am

I am sure this has been done before but I was wondering this in light of recent posts lately.

Why did you decide to sah/woh?

Was it a choice or something expected of you?

Was your plan to sah/woh though out or impulsive? Long-term or short-term?

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Registered: 11-03-2005
Sun, 02-26-2006 - 3:36pm

And ... even if her private school fell under district regulations ... district regulations aren't LAW.

While her district may have a policy against corporal punishment, it wouldn't be *against the law* to use corporal punishment. Just like, at my school, there is a policy against midriff baring tops ... but it isn't against the law for a child to wear it.

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Registered: 01-18-2006
Sun, 02-26-2006 - 3:37pm
I understand that. However I was a child that was spanked. I wasn't humiliated. No one will ever know what effects discipline will have or not have on a child.

 

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sun, 02-26-2006 - 3:37pm

I think it is perfectly *okay* and *normal* and *expected* for parents to "fail" at times. And failing at times doesn't mean one is a failure as a parent."

Thank god for that.

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Sun, 02-26-2006 - 3:38pm

I'm not sure how that answers the question of never putting him in the position of having the chance

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Sun, 02-26-2006 - 3:40pm

My 8 year old begs now to sit in the cart.

PumpkinAngel

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Sun, 02-26-2006 - 3:44pm

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I disagree, often it's the law.

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 01-18-2006
Sun, 02-26-2006 - 3:44pm
LMAO. Funny we had this discussion yesterday. My little one and I went to the grocery store this morning. She cracks me up now. She has her *baby* and her pocketbook on her arm. She is pushing the kid cart with the baby in the seat WITH the seatbelt on. She is shopping and I put a box of Mini Wheats in her cart. She looks at me and says "MOMMY...Don't put that on the bread you will squish it!" They learn so quickly what we do it is amazing. I gotta tell you the only reason I shop there is because she can push her own cart. Otherwise I would lose my mind.

 

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Registered: 01-18-2006
Sun, 02-26-2006 - 3:45pm
We were speaking of strollers and grocery carts. Not seatbelts.

 

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Sun, 02-26-2006 - 3:48pm
Bad analogy. Your boss has a disciplinary tool that is forbidden to parents. The ultimate power that all bosses weild is the ability to fire. They don't actually need much-or anything- else. The lesser disciplanary tools that bosses use are just build-ups to firing. Parents may bluff and angrily say that they are going to hand their child to the next random stranger who walks past, but abandonment is illegal.
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Registered: 03-27-2003
Sun, 02-26-2006 - 4:01pm

Very good point. And the use of "natural consequences" with a spouse is going to be interpreted as passive/aggressive divorce-bait. And the two groups that have disciplinary power over other adults- bosses and law enforcement- are allowed methods that are forbidden to parents. Any parent who "fired" a child would be jailed for abandonment. And any parent who "jailed" a child by locking them in the house for months or years would themselves be jailed for child abuse.

All in all, I don't think it works to try to draw lessons about acceptable parent>child interaction by observing acceptable adult>adult interaction because there is no adult>adult relationship that is remotely similar. And that's including all the adults who say "he was like a father to me" about some mentor they had, because even a "like a father" adult>adult relationship is only literally like a father in one small aspect.

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