SAH/WOH - Why?

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Registered: 11-18-2005
SAH/WOH - Why?
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Mon, 02-20-2006 - 7:41am

I am sure this has been done before but I was wondering this in light of recent posts lately.

Why did you decide to sah/woh?

Was it a choice or something expected of you?

Was your plan to sah/woh though out or impulsive? Long-term or short-term?

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Sun, 02-26-2006 - 4:07pm

The thing about time outs is that the child has to agree to them. And a child who just WON'T sit in the designated time-out area may also be the type of child most likely to be spanked- a child who really doesn't care whether mommy is mad at them or not or what terrible things are threatened in the future if they don't remain in the time-out.

I can see how a "time-out" could devolve into something physical- holding in the seat, pushing back into the seat- if the child doesn't agree to stay put in time out but simply leaps up and runs off.

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Sun, 02-26-2006 - 4:08pm
No Peapod in your area? Those people have GOT to branch out. Their service is desperately desired by so many people I'm a little amazed they aren't everywhere.
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Registered: 06-27-1998
Sun, 02-26-2006 - 4:16pm

We use it.

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 01-18-2006
Sun, 02-26-2006 - 4:18pm
That is no different than a child that is told to go to their rooms that wont go. Children have to be taught to sit in time out whether it be a chair, room, or spot on the floor. It isn't about threatening it is about teaching them to follow directions.

 

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Sun, 02-26-2006 - 4:19pm

How would you prevent it?

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Sun, 02-26-2006 - 4:26pm

You say you have no behavioral issues with your children and I certainly believe that based on the food debate with you.

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Sun, 02-26-2006 - 4:33pm

Mine do.

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 01-18-2006
Sun, 02-26-2006 - 4:37pm

***As you said then, you simply remove what you would have to battle with your children over versus teaching them to make the right choices with the wrong choices present.***

No that is incorrect. It is very hard to discuss dysphagia issues with someone that doesn't have a child with it. If you had the same issues you would understand.

***So perhaps you have no behavioral issues with your children because you are making all of the decisions for them, while many of us are allowing (and have been for awhile) our children to learn to make their own decisions and face the consequences of those decisions?***

That is so far off base that I don't even know where to start. She said if her DD gave her a hard time about wearing a coat she would let her go out anyway and be cold and learn her lesson. I said I would not let me child go somewhere without a coat. I wouldn't make a decision about the coat. Wear the coat or don't go. We have different consequences same discipline style. So are you telling me that you never tell your children what to do? Are you saying that you allow them to make all their decisions?

***At what age will you allow your children to start making some decisions for themselves?***

I have no idea when they started doing it. Yet both of them do make some decisions. I guess it would depend on a situation. Give me a situation and I would gladly tell you how we would handle it. Do you let your kids wake up in the morning abnd decide whether they will go to school or not? If they chose not to what is the consequence? Added sleep?

 

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Sun, 02-26-2006 - 4:39pm

No, but I wasn't asking for your child's private school link, but what would be the point anyway?

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 01-18-2006
Sun, 02-26-2006 - 4:39pm
Both of my children shower alone. She is 4 and he is 6. They are told after dinner..SHOWER TIME! They know what to do. Both clean their own rooms. Neither do laundry. Neither vacuum nor dust. Both can dress themselves and pick out their own clothes. My son pakcs his own bookbag not his lunch. He does check his lunch calendar for the day to tell me whether he needs a lunch or if he will eat at school. So I am guessing they make their own decisions a lot.

 

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