SAH/WOH - Why?

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SAH/WOH - Why?
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Mon, 02-20-2006 - 7:41am

I am sure this has been done before but I was wondering this in light of recent posts lately.

Why did you decide to sah/woh?

Was it a choice or something expected of you?

Was your plan to sah/woh though out or impulsive? Long-term or short-term?

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Sun, 02-26-2006 - 4:43pm

Exactly.


PumpkinAngel

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Sun, 02-26-2006 - 4:44pm
I am still not sure why you aren't getting this. District and county are not separate entities. It is called Durham county school district, Orange County school district, Wake County school district. The counties are NOT divided up into districts. I have no idea nor do I care what other private schools do in accordance with corporal punishment. I am looking at the guide as I type that states, NO CORPORAL PUNISHMENT will be used in discipline measures. I have told you repeatedly that the guidelines are very clear. Whether they can legally follow the law and use corporal punishment is irrelevent. The school has their own contract and by laws in which they abide. The county i.e. school district in the entire county has a ban on corporal punishment. Our private school is in the same county as the ban.

 

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Sun, 02-26-2006 - 4:49pm

I agree and I was just telling some other moms at basketball yesterday that my son's wives are going to just love me because I have been teaching the boys over the years while we shop.

PumpkinAngel

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Sun, 02-26-2006 - 4:55pm
Kids learn to do what you say, because if they don't, you punish them. They don't learn to make good choices for themselves.
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Sun, 02-26-2006 - 5:00pm

***Kids learn to do what you say, because if they don't, you punish them. They don't learn to make good choices for themselves.**

Yours get pnuemonia.

 

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Sun, 02-26-2006 - 5:03pm

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That's not what you said.

PumpkinAngel

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Sun, 02-26-2006 - 5:08pm

So then I don't understand

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Sun, 02-26-2006 - 5:11pm

I suppose it could. I rarely use time-outs, but I do use them for the few times my kids have been out of control and needed to calm down before any consequences or discussion could occur. I send them to their room, and if they don't want to go, I take them by the hand and lead them or carry them there. I haven't had to do that with my 9-yr-old in many years, and I think the last time for my 6-yr-old was a couple of years ago. I certainly have never had to hit them to get them to go to their rooms.

I don't use time-outs for consequences because I don't find that in general, sitting in a chair is the natural and logical consequence for much of anything. But if I did use time-outs, and the child kept jumping up in spite of my putting him back (which is what I've heard you have to do), I would find another method of discipline. I still wouldn't spank him.

And I think that the kind of child who wouldn't sit in a time-out chair wouldn't be deterred by spanking, either.

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Sun, 02-26-2006 - 5:13pm

***You specifically said that you don't have bread at the dinner table because one of them loves bread and would fill up on it versus eating other foods and you didn't want to do battle, so therefore no bread. As I told you before, I wouldn't do food battles. As you told me you haven't started teaching your children to make their own food choices as I have been doing for years.***

Again this is an issue with dysphagia. You don't understand it. I get that. However you are making judgements that are completely incorrect. Let me add without typing for hours. Children with dysphagia have a hrad time shifting from one food to another. They become very set in their comfort zone. If I left crackers on the table with a meal she would eat all of them. It isn't about making choices for her. It is about her having to branch out into different foods. Basically for lack of a better term, she is afraid of certain foods. You don't have to do food battles because neither of your children have food issues. Both mine do. So before you make a judgement I suggest you hang around children for a couple of meals that have problems with eating. Then get back to me.

***It's not the same consequence, you are deciding for the child, not the child learning the consequence of their decision.***

Yes it is. She would get to make the decision to go or not go. Her DD gets to freeze or not freeze. No difference. Both make a choice.

***I have to remind my oldest to practice guitar about 50% of the time, if he decided not to do so after me telling him, his consequence is that he stops guitar lessons, he knows that.***

There you go. He doesnt practice no more lessons. How is that different from no coat no going?

***Neither of which you allow them to make their own decision, so why don't you tell me something they are allowed to choice and make a decision on?***

Well now we know how you would handle the guitar lessons I guess we know you pretty much do what I do. I already did tell you. They both decide what to wear everyday. But ut oh I bought their clothes so I must be making that decision too. *sigh*

***Mine LOVE school, so that's not really an issue. Ds2 was sick (no fever or anything, just didn't feel good and there is lots going around his class) last week one day, he stayed home and was very eager to go back to school the next day.***

Ummm no. I was giving you a hypothetical. If your DS just decided not to go to school one day. Would you let him make the decision to just stay home?

 

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Sun, 02-26-2006 - 5:17pm

Perhaps you aren't reading my posts, because I am in complete agreement with you that those school districts govern the public school in their district and they have policies against corporal punishments and as okie state, they are policies and not laws, but regardless....they do not govern the private schools, they only govern the public schools in their jurisdiction.


The county does not have a regulation on the ban on corporal punishment, the school district does.

PumpkinAngel

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