SAH/WOH - Why?
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SAH/WOH - Why?
| Mon, 02-20-2006 - 7:41am |
I am sure this has been done before but I was wondering this in light of recent posts lately.
Why did you decide to sah/woh?
Was it a choice or something expected of you?
Was your plan to sah/woh though out or impulsive? Long-term or short-term?

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"That hasn't been what you have been saying all along. So are you saying that using the natural consequence discipline doesn't always work? Are you saying that you might actually make a decision for your child because mom knows best? Do you really think that all parents that spank have children that really only listen out of fear of getting a spanking?"
Sure it is. I've been saying that natural and logical consequences requires you to be creative. Nobody is going to allow their child to get run over by a car to make a point. So sometimes you need to come up with another consequence that isn't dangerous but which is also logical. It's more work than just spanking your kids, but it pays off.
Spanking is ineffective because it doesn't teach kids to make good decisions on their own. You say you use spanking to get your kids' attention when nothing else works, so that certainly sounds like you think they will listen in future out of fear of getting a spanking.
"Sorry but I disagree. I don't think that a child learning to wear a coat outside or go and freeze will help with the whole don't smoke pot thing when he or she is 15."
Of course you do. You think that telling your teens what to do is going to work. Good luck. I'll stick with teaching my kids to make responsible decisions on their own.
It is a hypothetical. What would you do if it was cold outside and your child wouldn't wear a coat to school. Are you going to keep her home from school?
And what if Dad wants to go, too? Are you going to make him miss something he wants to do because the child won't wear a coat?
Edited 2/26/2006 8:42 pm ET by mom34101
I agree with you. It still isn't the natural consequence. You are being authoritive. See it's not so bad to be the authority figure in your child's eyes. Oh BTW...my children do what they are asked to do. Not out of fear of being spanked but out of respect for their parents.
Not wearing a coat COULD be a safety issue.
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