SAH/WOH - Why?
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SAH/WOH - Why?
| Mon, 02-20-2006 - 7:41am |
I am sure this has been done before but I was wondering this in light of recent posts lately.
Why did you decide to sah/woh?
Was it a choice or something expected of you?
Was your plan to sah/woh though out or impulsive? Long-term or short-term?

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"Nice spin. Do you really think her mother would have told her to grab her coat in the first place if it weren't necessary? I doubt it. Her child was challenging her. She allowed that challenge. The child was cold until the outing was over. That is not how we handle things. My child has no business being outside when a coat is necessary. So if there isn't a coat on, then you aren't going outside. They are just kids ya know?"
I guess this is going to come as a shock to you, but I don't tell my kids what to wear. They're 6 and 9, and I expect them to be able to figure that out for themselves.
I don't get into challenges with my kids when I'm using natural and logical consequences. That's the beauty of it. The child experiences the consequence and has nobody to blame but himself.
I won't give my kids an unsafe choice, but that doesn't mean the consequence they get from making an unsafe choice isn't the natural consequence of their actions. As I said, using non-punitive methods of discipline takes a lot more thought.
I don't think you really understand what authoritarian is. Of course I'm an authority figure to my kids. But my goal isn't to get my kids to do what I want them to do. My goal is to get them to learn to make responsible choices on their own. That's why I don't focus on telling them what to do like you do.
You've been saying all along that your kids do what you tell them, or they get punished. So it's pretty clear to me why they do what you tell them.
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