SAH/WOH - Why?

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SAH/WOH - Why?
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Mon, 02-20-2006 - 7:41am

I am sure this has been done before but I was wondering this in light of recent posts lately.

Why did you decide to sah/woh?

Was it a choice or something expected of you?

Was your plan to sah/woh though out or impulsive? Long-term or short-term?

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Mon, 02-27-2006 - 1:41am
ITA.
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Mon, 02-27-2006 - 2:04am
You don't get pneumonia from going outside without a jacket.

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Registered: 07-16-2005
Mon, 02-27-2006 - 5:32am

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I'm surprised because I know you value education and to me, missing a day of school is a serious thing. ANd I know you and DH participate in decision-making with your children. I just can't imagine letting my child dictate my or DH's schedule for an entire day where he simply <>

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Registered: 07-16-2005
Mon, 02-27-2006 - 5:43am

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How old were your children when they fought the coat? Mine fought the coat between ages 1 to 3, but it just lasted a day or two because I used Snoopyme's method ~ no coat, no outing. From ages 1 to 3, my children could not even understand the concept that their bodies produce heat, that heat is captured by a coat and thus they will stay warm with a coat.

Plus, I would have been very embarrassed getting into our car (we enter straight thru a toasty warm basement), walking around the grocery store or on the sleigh-riding hill with a child who was coatless. I'm sure the other parents would think I was being abusive.

What if they fought shoes? Same method?

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Mon, 02-27-2006 - 5:48am
Me too.
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Mon, 02-27-2006 - 5:50am
It doesn't matter whether or not we agree upon that. Spanking is violence. When your child is being cared for by someone else, can they hit her? When you're taking care of a child who isn't yours, do you hit them? How far does this go?
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Registered: 12-29-2004
Mon, 02-27-2006 - 5:54am
No analogy there. Driving a car isn't something that grownups aren't allowed to do, and neither is drinking wine. Is there a license to hit other people?
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Mon, 02-27-2006 - 5:56am
As adults, we can do a lot of things that kids can't do, but we can't hurt other people just because we're adults.
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Mon, 02-27-2006 - 5:57am

I'm missing where your methods are natural consequences. I think the time-out you use is artificial. IMO, it was conjured up by parents who themselves need a time-out to cool off. I think the child doesn't need to cool off, but is fine and happy to continue on his course.

A stroller or shopping cart is not a natural consequence of running around a parking lot. Getting hit by a car is.

There's a lot here that you dictate. And that is fine IMO.

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Registered: 12-29-2004
Mon, 02-27-2006 - 5:58am
No analogy there, either. Walking out of the bathroom doesn't injure another human being. It wouldn't get you suspended at school on a weapons violation. It wouldn't get you hauled into court.

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