SAH/WOH - Why?

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-18-2005
SAH/WOH - Why?
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Mon, 02-20-2006 - 7:41am

I am sure this has been done before but I was wondering this in light of recent posts lately.

Why did you decide to sah/woh?

Was it a choice or something expected of you?

Was your plan to sah/woh though out or impulsive? Long-term or short-term?

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iVillage Member
Registered: 12-29-2004
Mon, 02-27-2006 - 8:05am
"Because I'm the parent". Wow. So whatever a parent does is okay by virtue of their being a parent. Even if you'd never allow it from a teacher, a friend's parents, or your own child hitting another child. If that's the defense, it's a safe bet the issue is closed.
iVillage Member
Registered: 12-29-2004
Mon, 02-27-2006 - 8:15am

In my school district, kids sign a weapons policy at the start of each year. Fists are considered a weapon. Kids can be suspended for hitting in school, and they sometimes are, as young as kindergarten or first grade. They're told to leave and get an adult if they are struck by another student. I wouldn't tell my kids something contrary to what the community has decided is protocol.

Even if that weren't school policy, I'd tell my kids to leave if they can. Self-defense, where not reacting with violence might actually endanger you, is something else.

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-27-2003
Mon, 02-27-2006 - 8:45am
See posts 200, 223 and 207.
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 02-27-2006 - 10:00am
LOL!

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iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 02-27-2006 - 10:10am
If one of your girls let go of your hand and ran away in a parking lot (when she was 2.5 years old), what would you do to punish her?

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iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 02-27-2006 - 10:18am

My kids were 20 pounds each long before they turned 1 year old.


And if your kids aren't the kind to run away (I have one who isn't and one who wa), I'm not sure you can relate.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 08-27-2005
Mon, 02-27-2006 - 10:32am

I've had very good friends with the kind who just take off, so I have a pretty good idea of the challenges. They still found other ways to handle the issue.

Also, I only mentioned size because you seemed so unsure that it could be possible to carry a 3 yo and something else. In this case, I'd say that size does matter :-).

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 02-27-2006 - 10:41am

"That's why I totally approve of spanking a child who repeatedly breaks away from a parent's grip in the parking lot, climbs up some piece of high furniture or does anything else likely to end in the hospital if not for a fear of a repeat spanking."


Thanks.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 02-27-2006 - 10:44am

"The natural consequence of running away is that you don't get the opportunity to do it again."


How would this work?

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iVillage Member
Registered: 01-18-2006
Mon, 02-27-2006 - 10:44am
You aren't reading very well. Let me ask you this. WHy do you feel it is ok for you to discipline your children?

 

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