SAH/WOH - Why?

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Registered: 11-18-2005
SAH/WOH - Why?
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Mon, 02-20-2006 - 7:41am

I am sure this has been done before but I was wondering this in light of recent posts lately.

Why did you decide to sah/woh?

Was it a choice or something expected of you?

Was your plan to sah/woh though out or impulsive? Long-term or short-term?

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Mon, 02-27-2006 - 12:30pm
Today it is rather cold for here- in the 20's (F).
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 02-27-2006 - 12:31pm
I'm happy to baby them a little longer.

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Registered: 09-04-1997
Mon, 02-27-2006 - 12:33pm
How about just making him stay in the grocery cart then? I did that with one of my kids until I could trust him not to run off.
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Registered: 03-27-2003
Mon, 02-27-2006 - 12:34pm
When was the last time it got below 0' Farenheit? That is really rare.
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Registered: 08-27-2005
Mon, 02-27-2006 - 12:36pm

That low of temp is pretty unusual, though, isn't it?

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Registered: 12-29-2004
Mon, 02-27-2006 - 12:38pm

If you didn't think it was in some sense good for him you wouldn't do it, would you? You must be convinced it's going to help him somehow in a way that can't be done in any other way, no?

Spanking is no sin; it's just something that happens sometimes. But I don't think it's wise, either.

Now, that child who isn't yours... if he behaves in a way that needs to be handled by spanking, why does that make him so unruly as to be unwelcome at your house? Don't those things go on with all kids at one time or another? Same as with yours?

And what if you had this other kid for several days, say, as a favor. No spanking under any circumstances?

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Mon, 02-27-2006 - 12:39pm

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My 3.5 year old DS is as big and physically able as any child his age, but has the cognitive ability and appreciation of danger about equal to that of his 15 month sister. If left for a second he would bolt into traffic, as would she. I shop with both of them all the time, and neither has ever come close to running away. You do what you need to do. It's all a matter of mindset.

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Registered: 09-04-1997
Mon, 02-27-2006 - 12:39pm
Toddler harness. I resorted to that when I was travelling with my breakaway kid and having to juggle luggage and kid. He hated it. So what.
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Registered: 03-27-2003
Mon, 02-27-2006 - 12:39pm
I value education too, so my kids know they can't just take a fun day off from school. If they wanted to take a day off, they'd have to be sick. If I thought they were faking it, I would let them stay home, but I'd make sure it was a very boring day where they had to stay in bed. My dd tried that once in second grade and was asking to go back to school by lunchtime. If I couldn't stay at home with her, and I was sure she wasn't sick, I would say okay, but you have to come to work with me because I can't stay home. Trust me, my kids have no interest in spending a boring day at mom's office. Plus, as PKA says, there would be consequences at school--she'd have to make up the schoolwork she missed. It wouldn't happen again.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 02-27-2006 - 12:41pm

"Spanking is no sin; it's just something that happens sometimes. But I don't think it's wise, either."


Agreed.

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