SAH/WOH - Why?
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SAH/WOH - Why?
| Mon, 02-20-2006 - 7:41am |
I am sure this has been done before but I was wondering this in light of recent posts lately.
Why did you decide to sah/woh?
Was it a choice or something expected of you?
Was your plan to sah/woh though out or impulsive? Long-term or short-term?

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I think this is one of the biggest differences between our parents and DH and I - we admit our mistakes to our kids and apologize for them. We both grew up with an abusive parent and have had alot to re-learn about parenting. And we're far from perfect - but we *always* talk about why we were upset or why we yelled and we apologize when we are wrong. The other day, DH yelled at our DD and then a few minutes later explained to her why he was upset and apologized for yelling at her. She said "That's okay, daddy". And I though it was a good moment - not only did DH do the right thing by apologizing, but DD got to be forgiving.
I think forgiveness would have come much faster and more completely for me had my parents been more willing to admit their mistakes and recognize the impact on us.
And I dont' mean to down-play spanking, although I suppose I do. But I can remember many a time when my sisters and I were slightly older (our dad never physically abused us once we were close to puberty) that we wished he would just spank us and get it over with. The alternatives were much worse.
On one hand, I would like my kids to have nothing but happy memories, but OTOH, that is not realistic. Learning to forgive your parents for being human and even downright wrong sometimes is part of growing up.
"No there really is no need for bread at dinner. It is a choice. I think green beans or peas are a much better choice. One doesn't need bread at any meal."
Actually, peas might not be a "better" choice than whole grain bread. Peas contain quite a few simple carbs. Green beans would be a much better choice. Our nutritionist said not all veggies are the same- carrots, peas and corn (not really a veggie) are on the "go easy" list of veggies.
16? That's ridiculous ... While I won't leave ds (5.5) alone in the car, I will leave dd (9.5) for very short periods of time (put the cart away, etc). She's big enough, smart enough, old enough, and "trained" enough to scream bloody murder adn fight back at anyone that comes near the car ...
16? Geesh, we *drive* at 16, but can't be alone in a car the day before ...
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