SAH/WOH - Why?

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Registered: 11-18-2005
SAH/WOH - Why?
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Mon, 02-20-2006 - 7:41am

I am sure this has been done before but I was wondering this in light of recent posts lately.

Why did you decide to sah/woh?

Was it a choice or something expected of you?

Was your plan to sah/woh though out or impulsive? Long-term or short-term?

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Registered: 07-16-2005
Mon, 02-27-2006 - 1:55pm

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You're right. I think it crosses the line though when the child arbitrarily selects his day and dictates Mom or Dad's schedule for that day (which was what Snoopyme was getting at ~ is the child making responsible choices), especially if both parents need to go into work that day.

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Registered: 05-01-2003
Mon, 02-27-2006 - 1:56pm
I think that is splitting hairs. My gosh, a 16-yo can drive.
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Registered: 03-31-2003
Mon, 02-27-2006 - 1:57pm

The second paragraph was a general statement, not directed at you, specifically. Sorry I was not more clear.

The thing I dislike most about spanking debates is how strongly people tend to feel against it. To the point that months later, someone will throw out and "Oh, yeah? Well, you think it is alright to hit your child!" as a way to discount the posters credibility. It makes it very difficult for honest discussion about the subject. Which, IMO, explains the poll results I liked above to dj.

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Registered: 11-03-2005
Mon, 02-27-2006 - 2:02pm

Windows can't be broken and children taken from the seat?

I really dislike it when the victims get blamed.

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Registered: 01-18-2006
Mon, 02-27-2006 - 2:02pm
No it isn't. That is a load of garbage. If the parent that writes that nanny's paycheck says to spank her children then that nanny is to do what she is told. She can always find a new job if that is troublesome for her.

 

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Registered: 11-03-2005
Mon, 02-27-2006 - 2:05pm

My rule of thumb for whether or not *I* would call in sick, would be whether or not others would be inconvenienced. If they would, in a significant way, I'd go to work. If not, I'd be okay with playing hooky.

Same for my kids ... if they're playing hooky would inconvenience others (namely dh or I; or our workplaces) then they'd go to school. If not, I'd be okay with them playing hooky.

I didn't see anywhere that PKA said letting her kid stay home caused issues for her or her dh.

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Registered: 11-12-2003
Mon, 02-27-2006 - 2:06pm
Reading this thread, I am just realizing how awful a parent I am. Instead of "teaching" my 5 yo that although yesterday it was 40 degrees all day, today it is 35 degrees this morning and will be 75-80 this afternoon, I have the gall to tell him to wear short sleeves instead of long sleeves under his sweatshirt.
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Registered: 11-03-2005
Mon, 02-27-2006 - 2:12pm
Psssst. Only "trashy" people spank ... don't you get it?
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Registered: 05-01-2003
Mon, 02-27-2006 - 2:15pm

Who is blaming a victim? I assume you mean the child(ren) and no one is blaming them. I was blaming the parent who left the kids, because I feel, in no way if the car is locked could someone get in and drive away that quickly unless the parent made it easy for the intruder.

What you describe is an extreme. Sure, theoretically, it 'can' happen anywhere; but in the case of leaving your child 5 cars away, safely buckled and in a parked, locked car I think it is more likely a child who is a 'runner' is more likely to get hit by a car in a parking lot then getting abducted.

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Registered: 11-12-2003
Mon, 02-27-2006 - 2:16pm

But Lois, that would be humiliating, you can't use THAT!!! /sarcasm

Sorry, not directed at you, but the holier-than-thou ness of some people on this thread is making me want to vomit.

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