SAH/WOH - Why?
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SAH/WOH - Why?
| Mon, 02-20-2006 - 7:41am |
I am sure this has been done before but I was wondering this in light of recent posts lately.
Why did you decide to sah/woh?
Was it a choice or something expected of you?
Was your plan to sah/woh though out or impulsive? Long-term or short-term?

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****And if he does hit, say at school or at a friend's house, or even at home, who can blame him for being a little confused about whether this is okay? After all, someone he loves very much showed him how.***
So according to your theory here. If your DD goes to a friends house and gets bombed drinking all the wine in the house it will be understandable? Someone she loved showed her how to drink wine.
Okay, I'll do this properly, or try to ;-)
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Because kids are primates: monkey see, monkey do.
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Maybe not yet. But your kids are smart enough not to pick on someone much bigger.
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Where do you think they picked up those bad habits?
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That's because you do a lot of things they have no interest in doing. Seeing you brush your teeth may or may not inspire them to do it themselves. At least not on a regular basis. But, being human, they might and probably will get the urge to hit somebody sometime. That's when you'll see how much they've learned.
So when you spank your kid, it isn't at all painful? Are you sure? It only gets their attention? Better than anything else you can think of? IMO, there's enough doubt there to make me want to avoid it. I have so far. Unfortunately, the older they get, the more they can provoke you. And the more ridiculous it is to think about doing it.
There are those who think the worst think about spanking isn't the lesson it teaches about violence or pseudo-violence or "something leading up to violence". That the problem with it is the violation of someone's physical integrity, their right to determine how and when and by whom they'll be touched. That's more my leaning. I don't think the occasional swat on the backside is the end of the world. I just think it's parental junk behavior, not the greatest parenting. Nobody's perfect, so no big deal. What I don't understand is "spanking on principle" - the idea that it's a great part of an overall approach.
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