SAH/WOH - Why?

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Registered: 11-18-2005
SAH/WOH - Why?
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Mon, 02-20-2006 - 7:41am

I am sure this has been done before but I was wondering this in light of recent posts lately.

Why did you decide to sah/woh?

Was it a choice or something expected of you?

Was your plan to sah/woh though out or impulsive? Long-term or short-term?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 02-27-2006 - 6:28pm
I have been walking through parking lots and have had parents of small children ask me to take their cart. I assume if they are asking me then they also ask other passersby. I think it is a perfect solution.
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Registered: 11-12-2003
Mon, 02-27-2006 - 6:29pm
Well, I don't have any doubts about it. It works fine for us. And my son is very well behaved and doesn't fear his parents, even though he was spanked when he was younger. Not that I ever worried about that. And yes, I'm sure it doesn't hurt. Since my "junk parenting" seems to be working I'm going to stick with it. I've never spanked my child out of provocation, as often as you like to assert it, so there is nothing to escalate. When a child is older, they are able to listen to reason and understand logical consequences.... something they cannot do at the age of 2 or 3.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 02-27-2006 - 6:39pm
Why wasn't the car door locked?
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Mon, 02-27-2006 - 6:44pm

I understand that. However I was a child that was spanked. I wasn't humiliated. No one will ever know what effects discipline will have or not have on a child"

Precisely! You do know as an adult though. And since its a wild card, as to whether you'd feel humiliated, or not (and I did...I was spanked by a caregiver and it was humiliating) then why risk it? Why risk humiliating the most precious people in our lives?

I won't do it. There are other ways and its not essential. The "risk vs reward" is just so clearly skewed to me.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 02-27-2006 - 6:48pm
Not in the amount of time it would have taken the mother to run 5 car spaces.
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Mon, 02-27-2006 - 6:54pm
I seriously doubt you're guiltier of junk parenting than any other parent. As far as spanking out of provocation, isn't that when spanking usually happens? Of course the little ones aren't interested in reason and logic, and I never really took that approach either. But when you're faced with problem behavior in your child and you're calm about it and not provoked, isn't it just as easy to remove him, distract him, talk to him, something?
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 02-27-2006 - 6:54pm
Oh come on. Who said that? My father was spanked...and he was from a really snoby New England family. Most my boarding school peers were spanked...I was the exception from the kids I knew growing up. I've never said its a class thing. I've said its a self control thing. The two have nothing to do with the other.
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Registered: 11-03-2005
Mon, 02-27-2006 - 6:55pm

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Where do you think they picked up those bad habits?>>

You're assuming the kids in question have been spanked? BAD assumption and you know it.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 02-27-2006 - 6:55pm
Well spanking is hitting...there's no other way to sugar coat it!
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Registered: 05-01-2003
Mon, 02-27-2006 - 6:55pm

I just wouldn't/don't do it. Never did. Found it easier to just take the kid to the cart corral with me. For some, that isn't easier.

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Well goodie .. come visit my walmart and say that with a straight face.

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