SAH/WOH - Why?
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SAH/WOH - Why?
| Mon, 02-20-2006 - 7:41am |
I am sure this has been done before but I was wondering this in light of recent posts lately.
Why did you decide to sah/woh?
Was it a choice or something expected of you?
Was your plan to sah/woh though out or impulsive? Long-term or short-term?

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I do get it that you're not necessarily mad when you swat the kid(s). I just don't get why, being not mad, you tend to choose (or have at times chosen) to spank (swat, love pat, etc.). Probably it's just that you consider spanking or swatting as good an approach as any other.
I agree that you can't explain it's dangerous, but I don't see how swatting her teaches her that. At that age, anything you do only lets her know you don't want her to do it, and not why. I used to just remove them from the situation and let them know it was a no-no. I'm not convinced raising your voice or swatting drives home that message any better.
Not such a bad assumption. If kids never saw anyone hit, far fewer of them would do it, don't you think? They must have seen it somewhere.
A few years ago there was an Ann Landers on this topic. She reported that in a national survey, well over 90% of all parents acknowledged spanking. They spanked their kids at just a few months old, gradually increasing to age 7 or so, then tapering off. By the time they were 12 very few kids were spanked.
But it seems to me that if you have to spank your kid for 7, 8, 9, 10 years, it can't be very effective. Lots of hard work, too.
***If kids never saw anyone hit, far fewer of them would do it, don't you think? They must have seen it somewhere.***
They can see it anywhere. Television, other kids, anywhere. I know children that hit that haven't been spanked. My brother's wife has a sister. She never spanks and had a real hard time with her oldest son hitting other children. He hit kids and wasn't spanked. So he learned it elsewhere.
***But it seems to me that if you have to spank your kid for 7, 8, 9, 10 years, it can't be very effective. Lots of hard work, too.***
Just like with any other discipline. If not used properly nothing is effective.
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That's my point. If you have no idea about my WM, then stop posting as if you do.
I'm sure kids have ample opportunity to see violent behavior. That's why I don't understand why one would model it at home.
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I tend to agree with that. But don't see that that leads to "his/her parents must spank".
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