SAH/WOH - Why?
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SAH/WOH - Why?
| Mon, 02-20-2006 - 7:41am |
I am sure this has been done before but I was wondering this in light of recent posts lately.
Why did you decide to sah/woh?
Was it a choice or something expected of you?
Was your plan to sah/woh though out or impulsive? Long-term or short-term?

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I agree. Whether spanking will damage one's personality is truly a roll of the dice. Why anyone would risk it, I cannot understand.
It's true, very few kids are perfectly behaved all the time. We don't expect that, and we don't even punish or give consequences each and every time. But if you're satisfied with your kid's behavior overall, does that really tell you whether your discipline is working or not? Or whether a less drastic approach wouldn't work just as well? Some kids are more compliant than others.
And even discipline that seems effective at the time can have deleterious side effects later on. For me, I'd feel bad about using corporal punishment, and whatever bad happened between us when they grow up, I'd look back and blame myself. I don't have a good relationship with my mother at all, and part of it was the occasional corporal punishment I got.
So what? You still can't look at a child that hits and say "Yep, he was spanked." or go even further and say "he hits because he was spanked."
And, imo, spanking, especially as charlesmama and snoopy and I have been using it, doesn't meet the definition of corporal punishment. "Corporal punishment is the deliberate infliction of pain intended as correction or punishment."
However, I'm sure we should just agree to disagree.
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