SAH/WOH - Why?

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Registered: 11-18-2005
SAH/WOH - Why?
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Mon, 02-20-2006 - 7:41am

I am sure this has been done before but I was wondering this in light of recent posts lately.

Why did you decide to sah/woh?

Was it a choice or something expected of you?

Was your plan to sah/woh though out or impulsive? Long-term or short-term?

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Registered: 11-12-2003
Mon, 02-27-2006 - 8:23pm
I don't know. Charles is 5, and still doesn't always clean his room when he's asked to, or brush his teeth. Sometimes he says a bad word. I think that's normal with most kids. I don't spank him, but the discipline tools I am using apparently aren't working, right? I think they are. I don't think anything works 100% of the time, because kids are their own people. They have personalities, and sometimes they do things wrong on purpose.
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Registered: 11-12-2003
Mon, 02-27-2006 - 8:27pm
LOL. Yeah.. me, who hasn't posted much of anything for almost 3 weeks. I'm asking because I re-read my posts, and I couldn't even fathom what you thought was insulting about them. If I actually thought they were insulting, THEN I would have reason to be concerned about TOS. If you don't want to explain your reasoning, that is fine with me.
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Registered: 01-18-2006
Mon, 02-27-2006 - 8:27pm
I just wanted to stick this here. I just laughed harder than I have laughed in a long time. There was a Burger King commercial on tv just a second ago. It was 2 double cheesburgers. (2 males dressed up in cheeseburger costumes one was a father and one was the son) The father burger says..>"Son you can't sell yourself for a dollar?" Son burger..."Why not dad?" Dad..."Because as long as you live under my roof you will live under my rules" Son..."What ya gonna do dad? Spank my bun?" AHAHAHAHHAHAHHA How fitting is that here tonight?

 

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Registered: 12-29-2004
Mon, 02-27-2006 - 8:30pm
Don't all parents wonder about corporal punishment? After all, it's controversial, and in some settings it's not allowed at all. I don't see how anyone could take it for granted, even if they do use it.
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Registered: 12-29-2004
Mon, 02-27-2006 - 8:31pm
It's an excellent possibility. Far more parents use corporal punishment in the US than don't.
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Registered: 12-29-2004
Mon, 02-27-2006 - 8:32pm
Then what's up with all those folks still spanking 8yo's? Maybe you do it better or something, but does that let corporal punishment off the hook?
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Registered: 07-16-2005
Mon, 02-27-2006 - 8:34pm
You. So then back to the original point. For some reason, you think the fact that one child belted and locked in a car while the parent returns the shopping cart is 9 yrs-old instead of 5 or under will actually make a difference in a carjacking?? Where do you come up with this stuff?
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Registered: 07-16-2005
Mon, 02-27-2006 - 8:37pm

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I agree. Whether spanking will damage one's personality is truly a roll of the dice. Why anyone would risk it, I cannot understand.

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Registered: 12-29-2004
Mon, 02-27-2006 - 8:37pm

It's true, very few kids are perfectly behaved all the time. We don't expect that, and we don't even punish or give consequences each and every time. But if you're satisfied with your kid's behavior overall, does that really tell you whether your discipline is working or not? Or whether a less drastic approach wouldn't work just as well? Some kids are more compliant than others.

And even discipline that seems effective at the time can have deleterious side effects later on. For me, I'd feel bad about using corporal punishment, and whatever bad happened between us when they grow up, I'd look back and blame myself. I don't have a good relationship with my mother at all, and part of it was the occasional corporal punishment I got.

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Registered: 11-03-2005
Mon, 02-27-2006 - 8:42pm

So what? You still can't look at a child that hits and say "Yep, he was spanked." or go even further and say "he hits because he was spanked."

And, imo, spanking, especially as charlesmama and snoopy and I have been using it, doesn't meet the definition of corporal punishment. "Corporal punishment is the deliberate infliction of pain intended as correction or punishment."

However, I'm sure we should just agree to disagree.

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