SAH/WOH - Why?

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Registered: 11-18-2005
SAH/WOH - Why?
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Mon, 02-20-2006 - 7:41am

I am sure this has been done before but I was wondering this in light of recent posts lately.

Why did you decide to sah/woh?

Was it a choice or something expected of you?

Was your plan to sah/woh though out or impulsive? Long-term or short-term?

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Registered: 07-16-2005
Mon, 02-27-2006 - 8:44pm
Just because, on a debate board, a parent has confidence in her good parenting choices and her researched techniques, there's no reason to insult and call her "holier than thou." You haven't been obnoxious in the least and I've learned quite a bit from your posts here. Thanks for sharing.
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Registered: 11-03-2005
Mon, 02-27-2006 - 8:44pm

Show me where I said an "unlocked" car. You can't. Because I didn't. Not once did I talk about an unlocked car. And actually, to take it further, I didn't talk about carjacking either.

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That's what I'm asking you. Because it certainly wasn't from my posts.

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Registered: 11-12-2003
Mon, 02-27-2006 - 8:45pm
Are you sure? Don't you think you would be similarly affected no matter the discipline style she used? I think bad relationships come from the emotions behind the discipline. If someone is trying to be mean, or does things in anger, no matter what it is will be harmful. If I lock my kid in his room all day because I'm angry about what he did, I think that would be just as bad. I will never look back and blame myself because I don't regret anything I have done.
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Registered: 01-18-2006
Mon, 02-27-2006 - 8:48pm
Holier than thou? Maybe not. Just basically clueless to the fact that she does exactly what I do. She doesn't allow soda except on Friday nights. She will take away guitar lessons if her son doesn't practice the way he is suppose to. That is what she says she does with her kids. Yet when someone else uses those techniques she says it is wrong. So maybe holier than thou is a good term.

 

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Registered: 11-12-2003
Mon, 02-27-2006 - 8:50pm
It's not an insult. I have no doubt that PKA won't take it personally. This is a debate. I think the attitude she put forth in her posts were holier than thou. I provided links. She's welcome to dispute it, and we can have a nice civil debate about it. There's no reason for you to go around stirring the pot and inventing insults out of nothing.
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Registered: 05-01-2003
Mon, 02-27-2006 - 8:53pm
I beg to differ with you. I remember a situation with a motorboat idling in a lake about 10 years ago. Several people were on the dock; and one by one they all fainted and some fell into the water. My friend, who is a nurse, dxed the problem quickly. Carbon monoxide poisioning.
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Registered: 05-01-2003
Mon, 02-27-2006 - 8:54pm
I'm not.
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Registered: 09-08-2003
Mon, 02-27-2006 - 9:00pm
I probably have some of the most physical kids on this board, they beat each other, wrestle, and all around are just in constant contact with each other yet they have not been spanked (okay--let me take that back, the 8 year old NEVER the 4 and 5 year old have each been meted two spankings from a father who had just had it).
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Registered: 07-16-2005
Mon, 02-27-2006 - 9:04pm

Instead of analyzing me and PKA so much, you might just want to consider why this debate has so unsettled you that you're repeatedly insulting me and PKA, are trying to silence ME (silly girl!) and are posting at such a frantic pace after admittedly not posting for weeks now.

Hmmm, maybe you need to rethink your position on spanking. I'm quite comfortable with my decision not to spank.

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Registered: 12-29-2004
Mon, 02-27-2006 - 9:07pm
I am not seeing how spanking doesn't fit the definition you posted. Deliberate infliction of pain intended as correction or punishment. But what difference does it make? By any name, it's certainly a mainstream practice in the USA.

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