SAH/WOH - Why?

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Registered: 11-18-2005
SAH/WOH - Why?
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Mon, 02-20-2006 - 7:41am

I am sure this has been done before but I was wondering this in light of recent posts lately.

Why did you decide to sah/woh?

Was it a choice or something expected of you?

Was your plan to sah/woh though out or impulsive? Long-term or short-term?

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Registered: 01-18-2006
Mon, 02-27-2006 - 9:11pm
That boat had some sort of mechanical problem. No way that happened if the boat was running properly.

 

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Registered: 01-18-2006
Mon, 02-27-2006 - 9:12pm
I have been in and out all day posting. I am quite comfortable with my position as well. I spank.

 

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Registered: 12-29-2004
Mon, 02-27-2006 - 9:13pm

I don't mean to suggest you should regret anything you've done. Nor do I think you'd lock anybody up all day for any reason. But bad relationships, while the emotions involved are important, come from lots of different things. I know my mom loved me and all, but the spanking was unnecessary imo. I found it very intrusive and offensive, particularly because I was helpless to do anything about it.

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How does that justify spanking? She was entitled to her anger and her feelings, but she should have left me alone. Then it wouldn't have been harmful.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 02-27-2006 - 9:21pm

I know you don't like me, but please refrain from passing moral judgment on my relationship with my nanny.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 02-27-2006 - 9:22pm
Stamford, Connecticut high school?

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Mon, 02-27-2006 - 9:39pm
Not me. I was the genesis of the "humiliation" thing, and I originally said that my dad spanked me a few times when I was a kid, and I found it humiliating. I'd never do that, or anything else that I think might be humiliating, to my kids.
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Registered: 05-01-2003
Mon, 02-27-2006 - 9:41pm
Well, I'm not going to argue the point with you, BUT it doesn't take a rocket scientist to realize that smoke coming into a car via an open trunk is not a good idea. Even if a car expelling carbon monoxide doesn't make a kid pass out, it is not a wise thing to expose your child too. At the very least, it can cause a headache.
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Registered: 11-12-2003
Mon, 02-27-2006 - 11:10pm

I don't think we're going to agree here, but I will try and explain myself.

>>How does that justify spanking? She was entitled to her anger and her feelings, but she should have left me alone. Then it wouldn't have been harmful.<<

I don't think parents are entitles to anger. I think it's the anger that is harmful, not the discipline. I'm not sure you understood my locking in a room example... if I send me kid to his room as a consequence, that's fine. If I lock him in his room all day because I am angry and I am taking it out on him, that's not good. The problem is the anger, not the punishment. Anger manifests itself into everything.

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Registered: 03-27-2000
Mon, 02-27-2006 - 11:19pm

And what do you do if your dh is out of town, you can't find a babysitter and you need to get milk for your baby?

I'm sorry, but there are simply times when you MUST take your child with you.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 02-28-2006 - 12:20am

I know you don't like me"

And once again...wrong. I don't feel that strongly PNJ.

"but please refrain from passing moral judgment on my relationship with my nanny. It's none of your business, and is closer to a personal attack that a debate point."

No, let's put it into general terms. I don't think nannies should be permitted to spank their charges. Its just wrong, IMO. As is anyone inflicting corporal punishment. Espcially care takers. You took it personally. Speaks volumes.

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