SAH/WOH - Why?
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SAH/WOH - Why?
| Mon, 02-20-2006 - 7:41am |
I am sure this has been done before but I was wondering this in light of recent posts lately.
Why did you decide to sah/woh?
Was it a choice or something expected of you?
Was your plan to sah/woh though out or impulsive? Long-term or short-term?

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<> I disagree; imo we feel what we feel, and we're entitled to it. No one even has to know how we feel if we don't want them to.
Usually they don't even know unless we show them or tell them.
<> Isn't there a difference between thoughts, words, and deeds? Feelings aren't harmful to anyone but maybe the one with the feelings. What you do with the feelings can make a difference, but not the feelings themselves. It's our responsibility to manage our actions, despite our feelings.
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No, it's not good. But the anger isn't the problem. The way of dealing with it is the problem.
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And here we come to the crux of the matter. No, anger doesn't manifest itself into everything. Nor does any other feeling. As responsible adults, we choose how to handle our emotions. If we react to them by doing things that we then blame on our emotions, we risk perpetuating a vicious cycle wherein we feel justified in doing things "because we're angry" or "because we couldn't help it". Imo it's important to separate our feelings from their outward expressions and to teach our kids that.
Community activist Phillip Lee, who is president of the Kettering Civic Federation, told the council that when he and a group of his neighbors joined police one morning last week to identify cars left running unattended, police issued 38 citations between 6:30 a.m. and 7:45 a.m.
"What we think residents know, they do not know," Lee told the council. "You'd be surprised at the number of people who do not know that you cannot leave your car running in the driveway. It is a violation of the law."
Police have been issuing such warnings throughout the county as part of a public awareness campaign. Soon, they will begin issuing fines.
Cached link, dated Feb 24
Karen
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Karen
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Well, except that spanking is illegal in Sweden and kids still figure out how to hit each other pretty effectively :-). Dd certainly had a tendency to hit when provoked long before she started in dc and she's never been spanked. She also bit a few times as a baby/toddler (never was bit). Ds, on the other hand, would never have dreamed of hitting/biting for any reason. I think hitting is a natural instinct when one is provoked...it's just that some kids seem to control that instinct better than others. Dd still has a tendency to want to lash out physically but she's learned to sublimate that a large extent.
I've never been particularly upset by children hitting each other in the "heat of the moment", so to speak. It needs to be stopped and the kids need to learn how to use words instead of fists, but I've always assumed that to some extent it's a fairly natural reaction. What I find far more disturbing is children who act violently without any provocation. I do wonder what that's all about.
Kids who lash out without provocation have poor impulse control. They usually do have provocation, but it's nothing anyone else would recognize as such.
But to your main point. I agree, it's a natural impulse to hit, and I posted about that earlier. When we spank, we don't help our kids learn more appropriate ways to channel those impulses. We only legitimize hitting, preparing the child to mismanage his impulses and rationalize it by thinking there are times when it's okay.
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