SAH/WOH - Why?

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Registered: 11-18-2005
SAH/WOH - Why?
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Mon, 02-20-2006 - 7:41am

I am sure this has been done before but I was wondering this in light of recent posts lately.

Why did you decide to sah/woh?

Was it a choice or something expected of you?

Was your plan to sah/woh though out or impulsive? Long-term or short-term?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 02-28-2006 - 7:56am

I brought this up in a earlier post. Someone said that a paddle on the behind was an effective deterrent for a young child running away in a parking lot because they do not yet have the capability to understand the connection between other forms of discipline and their misdeed.

I pointed out that in order for spanking to work they had to be able to form that connection. I run away in the parking lot I get spanked, I don't run away, I don't get spanked. If they can make that connection then they can also make others. I hold onto Mommy's hand I can walk by myself, I don't hold onto Mommy's hand I go in the stroller.

Or in this example. If a child can figure out. I touch the tank, I get spanked, I don't touch the tank I don't get spanked. They can also figure out, I touch the tank I get taken away from the tank, I don't touch the tank I can contiue to look at it.

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Registered: 08-27-2005
Tue, 02-28-2006 - 8:08am
Thanks! You said it much better than I did. Like I said, the only possible advantage I see with spanking is that it involves causing physical pain. But if the argument is that swatting doesn't cause pain, then I honestly can't understand why the swat should be a more effective deterrent than removal from the situation (at least for, say, the under 3 crowd).
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Registered: 12-29-2004
Tue, 02-28-2006 - 8:21am
You both said it better than I.
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Registered: 12-29-2004
Tue, 02-28-2006 - 8:22am
Three guesses where this 4yo learned that.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 02-28-2006 - 8:27am

My statement:

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Registered: 11-03-2005
Tue, 02-28-2006 - 8:55am

You're right that not all non-spankers should be lumped in here. However, way more than *one* poster has implied a value judgement on those that do spank.

And I'm not the only one that has employed "crap debate" methods here.

BTW, I'm not *pissed* off. I just really don't like to see things going from "I think spanking is wrong" to "spanking is physical abuse and akin to murder". THAT is crap debate methods and you know it.

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Registered: 01-13-2006
Tue, 02-28-2006 - 9:46am
is that really something you have to worry about? in 15 years as a parent i have never had one of my kids come up and smack me in the face. i dont know what i would do in that instance, because i really cant imagine that ever happening.
Jennie
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Registered: 08-22-2005
Tue, 02-28-2006 - 10:01am

that's bull. What you said was, "It's been quite obvious here that non-spankers think...." Didn't even ATTEMPT to suggest this was not a universal belief of all non-spankers.

And you're going to have to quote the "way more than one" posters who have called spankers "trash" or otherwise inplied they are low-class. It simply didn't happen, Hollie, and it's crap to defend your own broad brushstrokes by pretending it did.

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Registered: 01-18-2006
Tue, 02-28-2006 - 10:01am
You are correct. However neither of which scenerios you posted are the natural consequences that posters of non spankers are promoting.

 

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Tue, 02-28-2006 - 10:02am

Ah...rarely if ever go to WalMart and you are right, the parking lots do seem to be quite crowded there when driving by.

PumpkinAngel

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