SAH/WOH - Why?

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Registered: 11-18-2005
SAH/WOH - Why?
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Mon, 02-20-2006 - 7:41am

I am sure this has been done before but I was wondering this in light of recent posts lately.

Why did you decide to sah/woh?

Was it a choice or something expected of you?

Was your plan to sah/woh though out or impulsive? Long-term or short-term?

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Registered: 12-29-2004
Tue, 02-28-2006 - 10:51am
If it were the first time, there wouldn't be a consequence. We all make mistakes. I'd simply say we don't hit and if you do it again, there'll be a consequence. Just exactly what consequence would depend on his age. For a 3yo, it might be to not be able to play with the person he hit, not watch a video, whatever would feel like a "cost" to him. For a 6yo, it might be something else. An apology would be in order whether or not it was the first time, which may feel enough like a "cost" to deter the behavior. But for that they'd have to be verbal enough to begin with.
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Registered: 08-27-2005
Tue, 02-28-2006 - 10:56am

I don't think anyone has advocated a "natural consequences" only approach to discipline, most seem to use various disciplinary techniques. I guess the basic question is: are there always alternatives to spanking? I, personally, think there are always other alternatives and I, personally, prefer to avoid a method that involves me physically hurting my children, however mildly.

If you are happy with spanking as a disciplinary technique, that's fine. Your children, your choice and it is your legal right. But it is a choice. I honestly can't think of a single case in which spanking would be the ONLY alternative that would work. You are preferring to spank on occassion rather than consider other possibilities.

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Tue, 02-28-2006 - 11:02am

No, that's me.

PumpkinAngel

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-27-1998
Tue, 02-28-2006 - 11:05am

Because it's a learning process.

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 11-12-2003
Tue, 02-28-2006 - 11:06am
I think we're going to have to disagree. I think that any parent that holds a lot of anger towards their own children is going to cause some damage, no matter what. Being ticked off at your kid, being upset with them every once in a while, heck, being angry that they did a particular thing is one thing. Being angry at the child for more than a little while is going to cause problems, and it will manifest itself in something. (All my opinion, of course)
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Registered: 01-18-2006
Tue, 02-28-2006 - 11:09am

Well While I agree that soda isn't really a healthy choice I wouldn't call it unhealthy either. However the issue with milk has been raised more than once with several nutritionists. Many say that drinking milk isn't necessary and that it isn't really a wise choice. That is why babies are weaned at a young age from the mother's milk. Look at nature. You don't see any animals supplying their babies with a cow's milk. Calcium can be gotten from many different things.

No one is insulting you. I am just quoting directly from your posts.

 

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-27-1998
Tue, 02-28-2006 - 11:10am

Both of my kids have had very very small sips of wine if they have requested it.

PumpkinAngel

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-27-1998
Tue, 02-28-2006 - 11:12am

Why would it be understandable?

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 01-18-2006
Tue, 02-28-2006 - 11:15am
It was a hypothetical as well as sarcastic. So you think it would be ok if her teenage dd went to a friends house and they shared a few glasses of wine?

 

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-27-1998
Tue, 02-28-2006 - 11:15am

That was totally uncalled for and it's obvious you haven't been reading the posts on natural consequences.


PumpkinAngel

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