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| Sat, 12-06-2003 - 11:17am |
Well picture this scenario and tell me if you think it's appropriate for this mother to stay home-
As a single and childless woman, she always lived frugally, and worked hard. He is the same way- both the husband and wife manage to get out of debt and save up a few thousand dollars by the time they meet. They date for a couple years (or whatever amount of time YOU think is reasonable for a couple to date before marrying). By the time they get married, their combined savings is at 8,000 dollars. As a childless couple, they continue to live frugally and work hard. His income goes to pay the rent, utilities and necessities while all of her income goes into her savings. They have a few setbacks here and there like car repairs or illness or emergency out of town trips. But altogether, they manage to save up say, 20 grand by the time their first child is born X amount of time later. The husband gets great insurance at his job. They are already used to living off of his income anyway since her income was mostly going into savings. There is still no credit card debt and no auto loan debt. This being said, is it TOOOOO much to ask for this woman to stay at home for at least a couple of years, maybe between 3-5 years to take care of the baby at home? What if she planned on going to work once the child or children got to elementary school, and just wanted to stay home for the baby years? Is that reasonable?

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I just don't see how it's better for the "kids" to have dual WPs. And how is it worse for the "kids" to have one SAHP and one WOHP?
"It's far more efficient for me to contribute to my child's life in ways that do not consistently overlap the contributions my husband makes, and vice versa."
Why is it more "efficient"?
And don't you ever get tired of hastening to explain that the demands of your DH's career made it a virtual impossibility for you to WOH, not that his natural talents lie in the work arena and yours lie in the domestic arena?
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Laura
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But two paychecks and a different primary caregiver is fine, because only the parents need to be equal to *each other*?
If mom is primary to dad when she spends all day with the kids, the daycare is primary to both parents when the kids spend all day there.
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