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| Sat, 12-06-2003 - 11:17am |
Well picture this scenario and tell me if you think it's appropriate for this mother to stay home-
As a single and childless woman, she always lived frugally, and worked hard. He is the same way- both the husband and wife manage to get out of debt and save up a few thousand dollars by the time they meet. They date for a couple years (or whatever amount of time YOU think is reasonable for a couple to date before marrying). By the time they get married, their combined savings is at 8,000 dollars. As a childless couple, they continue to live frugally and work hard. His income goes to pay the rent, utilities and necessities while all of her income goes into her savings. They have a few setbacks here and there like car repairs or illness or emergency out of town trips. But altogether, they manage to save up say, 20 grand by the time their first child is born X amount of time later. The husband gets great insurance at his job. They are already used to living off of his income anyway since her income was mostly going into savings. There is still no credit card debt and no auto loan debt. This being said, is it TOOOOO much to ask for this woman to stay at home for at least a couple of years, maybe between 3-5 years to take care of the baby at home? What if she planned on going to work once the child or children got to elementary school, and just wanted to stay home for the baby years? Is that reasonable?

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I don't recall ever having said that ANY of my "natural talents" lie in the domestic arena, LOL! I was a top notch lawyer, but I'm no housekeeper. What I am is a very good mom with a lot of patience and interest in kids, and I also happen to be a pretty good cook through lots of willingness to try things. That's about it for me and domesticity. I really don't understand your last sentence about me hastening to explain anything. I don't believe I ever said that DH's job made it "virtually impossible" for me to WOH, however, it is certainly not worth it to me or to my family to do so, and yes, it's both our preference that I'm the one that's at home.
What's your point?
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