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| Sat, 12-06-2003 - 11:17am |
Well picture this scenario and tell me if you think it's appropriate for this mother to stay home-
As a single and childless woman, she always lived frugally, and worked hard. He is the same way- both the husband and wife manage to get out of debt and save up a few thousand dollars by the time they meet. They date for a couple years (or whatever amount of time YOU think is reasonable for a couple to date before marrying). By the time they get married, their combined savings is at 8,000 dollars. As a childless couple, they continue to live frugally and work hard. His income goes to pay the rent, utilities and necessities while all of her income goes into her savings. They have a few setbacks here and there like car repairs or illness or emergency out of town trips. But altogether, they manage to save up say, 20 grand by the time their first child is born X amount of time later. The husband gets great insurance at his job. They are already used to living off of his income anyway since her income was mostly going into savings. There is still no credit card debt and no auto loan debt. This being said, is it TOOOOO much to ask for this woman to stay at home for at least a couple of years, maybe between 3-5 years to take care of the baby at home? What if she planned on going to work once the child or children got to elementary school, and just wanted to stay home for the baby years? Is that reasonable?

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As to your "anecdotal" evidence, you haven't provided any of that either.
CLU: No, I don't think so. Otherwise you'd get why type A's are more likely to be WOHM's.
144: But you haven't proven or shown me that at all. You think that type A's may be more likely to WOH, but no one says it is more likely based on a personality type theory.
CLU: Although type A SAHM's would explain those moms who claim things like their children walking early was a result of their work, lol.
144: Would it also explain the type A WOHM who assert the same thing? NEWLY ADDED - I agree with Laura above, it would seem the type A person would be more involved given their needs for external motivators, high drive and competitive nature.
CLU: Given a choice, I think a type A would choose to work.
144: That is just it, you would THINK.
CLU: We tend to have a hard time with things like dependency
144: Then why are you married? Why do you have children? Why do you work for someone else?
CLU: miss the challenges and accomplishments of work when we don't work.
144: Again, this makes the big huge assumption that there are no internal challenges and accomplishments of those who don't earn a paycheck.
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