Should dad work overtime so mom can SAH?
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|Fri, 06-13-2003 - 9:23am|
My dh started a new job a few months ago. The company is doing well, and if he wanted to, he could work plenty of OT to increase his pay even more. Right now, with me working, he can only work an 8 hour shift, cuz he has to be home for the kids after school. And working Saturdays is out of the question - with me working full time, Sat. is a day to devote to housework, laundrey and errands, and he must help with some of this. If I didn't work, he'd be free to put in the extra hours, and make up for a portion of the salary I gave up (not all of it, but enough to get us by for sure).
He doesn't want to work more than 40 hours/week. I'm absolutely sick of working full time, and having little time to spend with my kids. My kids still beg me to spend time with them, and would be thrilled if I could be one of those moms who's available to help at school, etc.
A part time job in my field is not possible, so part time work for me would be a minimum wage mall job at best. What would you do? I know the only reason many women get to stay at home is because dad is working 50-60 hrs/week. My husband refuses to do this. I know it sounds selfish on my part, but I've really missed the opportunity to be home with my kids.