Should I quit my job?

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Should I quit my job?
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Wed, 08-04-2010 - 12:34pm

Ok, I'm new to this board, although I have lurked here some

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Wed, 08-04-2010 - 4:28pm

Just posting to echo what everyone else has said.

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Wed, 08-04-2010 - 7:32pm
Ha! Don't we all? ;)

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Wed, 08-04-2010 - 9:15pm

I've been a sahm for 14 years, and I would do it again, given

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Wed, 08-04-2010 - 11:02pm
I also think it is HARD to get things done with kids underfoot and I worry that my house will be a disaster, I will look like crap all the time, I won't get much done and I will feel bad about myself. Do you just figure out how to do things while the kids are around or do you still end up doing everything during naps or after bed?



This cracked me up. I am a SAHM and have so many days I get nothing much done, my house is a disaster, and I look like crap all day. Somehow "showering" went way down on the priority list when I quit my job. Now that my kids are 3 yo I can get stuff done with them underfoot. They like to help with laundry, or will occupy themselves and chat with me while I am doing it, or ride their trikes in circles around the first floor periodically checking to see how I'm doing. They play, and I can clean the floors, clean up after meals, etc. I look forward to naps because I catch up on whatever needs to be done and rest. I need that downtime to function once they wake up. After bed is me time as well, but it's also family time with the older kids, time to do more laundry, and for me, homework.



I love it though and wouldn't change it. I felt I had to SAH because my twins were very premature, but I also feel blessed for the opportunity. I never would have done it if they hadn't been so sick, I could not justify giving up the salary. But once I found a justification, I went with it and never regretted it. I had a job that I was not liking very much, that was very stressful, and long hours. I don't miss it at all. Plus I had wanted to SAH with my first, and it is in my heart to SAH. There are also days I get a lot done, my house looks really good, and I did actually shower. So no complaints here. I do remember when I quit my job I felt excited and sure it was the right move, that helped.

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Thu, 08-05-2010 - 1:07am

"Somehow "showering" went way down on the priority list when I quit my job. "

I've always wondered about this. Regardless of the ages of my kids and my work status, I've always washed my face, brushed my hair, put my glasses on, and gotten dressed in the morning. Takes about 10 minutes.

Chris

The truth may be out there but lies are in your head. Terry Pratchett

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Thu, 08-05-2010 - 7:49am
I've always wondered about this. Regardless of the ages of my kids and my work status, I've always washed my face, brushed my hair, put my glasses on, and gotten dressed in the morning. Takes about 10 minutes.



I did say showering went down on the priority list, but I still brush my teeth and put my contacts in when I first wake up. I may get dressed but it depends on the day, and maybe I need to mention I sleep in tshirts not nightgowns. I don't brush my hair under any circumstances, but even SAH I usually spray some lavender water on it and work it into place. The shower happens, just later in the day than it used to.

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Thu, 08-05-2010 - 7:51am

Good daycare costs money more - often than not. When my kid were in 3 days a week (They were 2 and 4), we paid 1300-1400 per month - and tat was almost 10 years ago. I felt the cost was worth it because it was a high quality daycare and the boys liked it.

Your job sounds like the perfect job for a parent (mom or dad) with minor children. I think many people who currently sah would be working if they had that situation. I think many who woh ft would like it too.

Since you already work reduced hours, maybe you can do some of the weekend errands on the way home from daycare. My kids loved to go shopping and it combines close one on one time with getting a chore done. It's a win-win. You can also get a jump on the household chores. Don't try to get them all done at once, but do one everyday so they don't stack up on the weekend.




Edited 8/5/2010 8:21 am ET by tryingtoquit
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Thu, 08-05-2010 - 10:31am

Ah, that's it then. I've never taken a shower when I get up in the morning. I take a bath at night before I go to bed, regardless of how late it is. I only take a shower when I wash my hair and I do that in the late mornings or early afternoons to give my hair time to dry before bed.

Chris

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Thu, 08-05-2010 - 10:42am

Your post reminded me of another important detail that I somehow left out.

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