Should I stay or should I go?

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-29-2009
Should I stay or should I go?
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Mon, 05-18-2009 - 2:36pm

Hi ladies! it is so nice to be here and vent vent vent vent!!! I would like to share with you guys what is been BOTHERING me for a while now.

I'm 30 my husband is 50 (doesn't look like 50 AT ALL!) we have a 1 year old boy.

We both have good jobs (diferent cities) we've live in different states since we met. I don't like what I do and I would like to change my career and go back again to Graduate School for another major.

I am an engineer and he is an economist, I want to go back to school for a PhD in Psychology, but first I want to stay at home with my baby until he is ready to go to school and then I could go back to school. This sound like a plan since DH is getting a FANTASTIC job . I mean good benefits, good money, very nice city, etc etc etc.

The problem is:

To do so I have to leave my job and I am scared to death!!! what if we don't work out very well? I will be regreting all my life having left a good job. What I would do if we divorce? Start from zero homeless?

Since he is going to be the one making the money how does that is going to work out? He says he will support me always, and he's been trying to convince me to stay at home with our baby but I've been reluctant (reason why we live in diferent cities) to the idea of not having my own money. He is a very generous man, but with a bit of mood swings. We will be living together for the first time since tomorrow,( since he is in academia he is coming to spend the whole summer here at my city ) I guess I will take it from there and see how we work out as a couple.

WHAT DO YOU THINK?

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iVillage Member
Registered: 02-06-2009
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 7:15pm

<<experience with what?>>


I'm sure that wasn't intended to be funny, but that was funny!

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-06-2009
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 7:19pm
If I haven't said this before, welcome to our little board!
iVillage Member
Registered: 02-06-2009
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 7:22pm

Her posts?

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2009
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 7:24pm
Don't know why. I know I live in a nice place and all ;)
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2009
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 7:26pm
Not sure if you answered me before but do you have an illegal alien problem in your area?
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2009
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 7:28pm

4%, no experience. Not much to debate-shrug.

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-06-2009
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 7:30pm

So you're going to ignore the facts I mentioned.

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2009
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 7:32pm
Not so true. I was googled and researched before just to find out where I lived :(
iVillage Member
Registered: 04-22-2009
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 7:38pm

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2009
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 7:38pm
I think I missed what your name is supposed to mean-can you divulge please?

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