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| Mon, 05-18-2009 - 2:36pm |
Hi ladies! it is so nice to be here and vent vent vent vent!!! I would like to share with you guys what is been BOTHERING me for a while now.
I'm 30 my husband is 50 (doesn't look like 50 AT ALL!) we have a 1 year old boy.
We both have good jobs (diferent cities) we've live in different states since we met. I don't like what I do and I would like to change my career and go back again to Graduate School for another major.
I am an engineer and he is an economist, I want to go back to school for a PhD in Psychology, but first I want to stay at home with my baby until he is ready to go to school and then I could go back to school. This sound like a plan since DH is getting a FANTASTIC job . I mean good benefits, good money, very nice city, etc etc etc.
The problem is:
To do so I have to leave my job and I am scared to death!!! what if we don't work out very well? I will be regreting all my life having left a good job. What I would do if we divorce? Start from zero homeless?
Since he is going to be the one making the money how does that is going to work out? He says he will support me always, and he's been trying to convince me to stay at home with our baby but I've been reluctant (reason why we live in diferent cities) to the idea of not having my own money. He is a very generous man, but with a bit of mood swings. We will be living together for the first time since tomorrow,( since he is in academia he is coming to spend the whole summer here at my city ) I guess I will take it from there and see how we work out as a couple.
WHAT DO YOU THINK?

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Interesting...
She has stated all day laborers are illegal by her eyeballs? Well, I guess we'll have to bring back the racism discussion again. No one in this subthread IIRC has denied that illegal immigration exists and there is a day labor phenomenon that attracts illegal immigrants as a labor source. BUT - not all day laborers are illegal, and not all day laborer employers hire illegals or under the table workers. Her broad brush strokes in describing day laborers, e.g. taking jobs from real Americans, family living like kings, doesn't disturb you?
Can you explain why you think your link to the Missouri law is relevant?
Can you deny that Coco has indicated that she can look at a Hispanic man on a corner in her neighborhood and tell that he is illegal? Is this the next form of DWB? SotSCwH?
As I live close to farmlands and orchards, there is a subculture of H2A workers and illegals. I don't see it as an illegal alien problem, but an unscrupulous employers problem.
There would be no problem with illegal immigration if real Americans were abiding by the law. BAER
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