Should I stay or should I go?

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-29-2009
Should I stay or should I go?
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Mon, 05-18-2009 - 2:36pm

Hi ladies! it is so nice to be here and vent vent vent vent!!! I would like to share with you guys what is been BOTHERING me for a while now.

I'm 30 my husband is 50 (doesn't look like 50 AT ALL!) we have a 1 year old boy.

We both have good jobs (diferent cities) we've live in different states since we met. I don't like what I do and I would like to change my career and go back again to Graduate School for another major.

I am an engineer and he is an economist, I want to go back to school for a PhD in Psychology, but first I want to stay at home with my baby until he is ready to go to school and then I could go back to school. This sound like a plan since DH is getting a FANTASTIC job . I mean good benefits, good money, very nice city, etc etc etc.

The problem is:

To do so I have to leave my job and I am scared to death!!! what if we don't work out very well? I will be regreting all my life having left a good job. What I would do if we divorce? Start from zero homeless?

Since he is going to be the one making the money how does that is going to work out? He says he will support me always, and he's been trying to convince me to stay at home with our baby but I've been reluctant (reason why we live in diferent cities) to the idea of not having my own money. He is a very generous man, but with a bit of mood swings. We will be living together for the first time since tomorrow,( since he is in academia he is coming to spend the whole summer here at my city ) I guess I will take it from there and see how we work out as a couple.

WHAT DO YOU THINK?

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iVillage Member
Registered: 02-22-2007
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 8:03pm

>> SotSCwH <<

Oh noes!!

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Why hide your light under a bushel of bears, I ask you?

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Why hide your light under a bushel of bears, I ask you?
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2009
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 8:03pm

There would be no problem with illegal immigration if real Americans were abiding by the law. BAER


You ARE joking, correct? Americans bring these illegal aliens into the U.S.?

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-08-1998
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 8:05pm
Daily, actually.
iVillage Member
Registered: 10-08-1998
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 8:14pm

Of course they do!

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2009
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 8:17pm
I have a big problem with this posters name. I would love for her to let everyone know WHAT it means :)
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2009
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 8:18pm
So they are not coming here to become citizens??
iVillage Member
Registered: 10-08-1998
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 8:23pm

I think most are coming here to provide for their families.

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-08-1998
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 8:24pm

Why would her name possibly be offensive to you?

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2009
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 8:26pm
And sending money back to them, right?
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2009
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 8:27pm
I'm sure she can tell you on banshees :)

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