Should I stay or should I go?

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-29-2009
Should I stay or should I go?
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Mon, 05-18-2009 - 2:36pm

Hi ladies! it is so nice to be here and vent vent vent vent!!! I would like to share with you guys what is been BOTHERING me for a while now.

I'm 30 my husband is 50 (doesn't look like 50 AT ALL!) we have a 1 year old boy.

We both have good jobs (diferent cities) we've live in different states since we met. I don't like what I do and I would like to change my career and go back again to Graduate School for another major.

I am an engineer and he is an economist, I want to go back to school for a PhD in Psychology, but first I want to stay at home with my baby until he is ready to go to school and then I could go back to school. This sound like a plan since DH is getting a FANTASTIC job . I mean good benefits, good money, very nice city, etc etc etc.

The problem is:

To do so I have to leave my job and I am scared to death!!! what if we don't work out very well? I will be regreting all my life having left a good job. What I would do if we divorce? Start from zero homeless?

Since he is going to be the one making the money how does that is going to work out? He says he will support me always, and he's been trying to convince me to stay at home with our baby but I've been reluctant (reason why we live in diferent cities) to the idea of not having my own money. He is a very generous man, but with a bit of mood swings. We will be living together for the first time since tomorrow,( since he is in academia he is coming to spend the whole summer here at my city ) I guess I will take it from there and see how we work out as a couple.

WHAT DO YOU THINK?

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iVillage Member
Registered: 02-07-2009
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 8:29pm
ITA
iVillage Member
Registered: 10-08-1998
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 8:29pm
Has anyone denied that?
iVillage Member
Registered: 05-13-2009
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 8:29pm

Please tell me YOU are joking?

But if you are not, here you go. If illegals had no chance of earning a wage, there would be no reason for them to come to the US. If they came anyway, and were not able to get employment, there would be no choice for them but to return or go to somewhere they could get a job. It is against the law to hire illegal aliens for employment in the US. If we all followed the law, there would be no illegal immigrant problem. How simple is that? But apparently, some people can witness this perceived day laborer lawbreaking daily without batting an eye.

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2009
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 8:32pm
Any anyone agreed with it?
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2009
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 8:33pm
So they come not intending to become citizens, correct?
iVillage Member
Registered: 06-27-1998
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 8:34pm

Hmm...no answers to those questions, curious.


<<4%, no experience.>>


Huh?

PumpkinAngel

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-27-1998
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 8:38pm

<<Experience from googling or life experience? Big difference.>>


So that brings me back to my unanswered questions, what experience?

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 02-07-2009
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 8:41pm

Americans hire illegal workers. If Americans did not hire illegal workers than there would be no reason for them to come here looking for work.

Also yes, in some cases Americans do bring in illegals.

http://sweetness-light.com/archive/3-nat-guard-caught-smuggling-illegals

http://www.therightperspective.org/2008/09/17/democrat-congressman-son-busted-smuggling-illegals/

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-27-1998
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 8:42pm

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Who breaks the law and hires the illegal aliens?


PumpkinAngel

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-08-1998
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 8:44pm
I will agree that illegal aliens often support their families in

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