Should I stay or should I go?

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-29-2009
Should I stay or should I go?
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Mon, 05-18-2009 - 2:36pm

Hi ladies! it is so nice to be here and vent vent vent vent!!! I would like to share with you guys what is been BOTHERING me for a while now.

I'm 30 my husband is 50 (doesn't look like 50 AT ALL!) we have a 1 year old boy.

We both have good jobs (diferent cities) we've live in different states since we met. I don't like what I do and I would like to change my career and go back again to Graduate School for another major.

I am an engineer and he is an economist, I want to go back to school for a PhD in Psychology, but first I want to stay at home with my baby until he is ready to go to school and then I could go back to school. This sound like a plan since DH is getting a FANTASTIC job . I mean good benefits, good money, very nice city, etc etc etc.

The problem is:

To do so I have to leave my job and I am scared to death!!! what if we don't work out very well? I will be regreting all my life having left a good job. What I would do if we divorce? Start from zero homeless?

Since he is going to be the one making the money how does that is going to work out? He says he will support me always, and he's been trying to convince me to stay at home with our baby but I've been reluctant (reason why we live in diferent cities) to the idea of not having my own money. He is a very generous man, but with a bit of mood swings. We will be living together for the first time since tomorrow,( since he is in academia he is coming to spend the whole summer here at my city ) I guess I will take it from there and see how we work out as a couple.

WHAT DO YOU THINK?

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iVillage Member
Registered: 05-09-2009
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 9:50pm
If I've told you once, I've told you 1625 times, no one cares where you live.

 

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-06-2009
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 9:55pm

Okay, resolved that it's Sarah-Palin-type reading.

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-09-2009
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 9:55pm
I think it's a lovely name.

 

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-06-2009
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 10:04pm

Oh my goodness, now that was funny!

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-09-2009
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 10:12pm
Love you sweetie!

 

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-22-2005
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 10:17pm
I'm ignoring the facts that you mentioned because none of it has anything to do with my point that less than 100% of day laborers are illegal immigrants. If you have a statistic that shows that 100% of day laborers are illegal immigrants, then by all means post it. Otherwise we have nothing to say to each other.
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iVillage Member
Registered: 12-07-2003
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 10:40pm
Do you know how expensive (and difficult) it is to apply for a temporary work visa and/or green card?
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iVillage Member
Registered: 12-07-2003
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 10:43pm
Not only that, but nothing stops legal residents in the US from working here for years and then going home. In fact, if they are here legally, I'm pretty sure they can draw social security while living in their home country.
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iVillage Member
Registered: 12-07-2003
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 10:56pm
I knew a guy from Austin. We all called him Tex and every chance he got he told us, "Austin is the live music capital of the world."
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iVillage Member
Registered: 05-13-2009
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 11:50pm
What is the problem with the poster's name? Is it vulgar, or an innuendo found in the urban dictionary? If so, I guess you could report it as a TOS violation, but it seems to be neither to me, but it took me weeks to catch on the teabag thing as all around me were tittering.

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