Should I stay or should I go?

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-29-2009
Should I stay or should I go?
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Mon, 05-18-2009 - 2:36pm

Hi ladies! it is so nice to be here and vent vent vent vent!!! I would like to share with you guys what is been BOTHERING me for a while now.

I'm 30 my husband is 50 (doesn't look like 50 AT ALL!) we have a 1 year old boy.

We both have good jobs (diferent cities) we've live in different states since we met. I don't like what I do and I would like to change my career and go back again to Graduate School for another major.

I am an engineer and he is an economist, I want to go back to school for a PhD in Psychology, but first I want to stay at home with my baby until he is ready to go to school and then I could go back to school. This sound like a plan since DH is getting a FANTASTIC job . I mean good benefits, good money, very nice city, etc etc etc.

The problem is:

To do so I have to leave my job and I am scared to death!!! what if we don't work out very well? I will be regreting all my life having left a good job. What I would do if we divorce? Start from zero homeless?

Since he is going to be the one making the money how does that is going to work out? He says he will support me always, and he's been trying to convince me to stay at home with our baby but I've been reluctant (reason why we live in diferent cities) to the idea of not having my own money. He is a very generous man, but with a bit of mood swings. We will be living together for the first time since tomorrow,( since he is in academia he is coming to spend the whole summer here at my city ) I guess I will take it from there and see how we work out as a couple.

WHAT DO YOU THINK?

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iVillage Member
Registered: 03-17-2009
Thu, 05-28-2009 - 10:40am
you haven't been 'round long, have you? lol
iVillage Member
Registered: 06-27-1998
Thu, 05-28-2009 - 10:43am

Very well said....


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PumpkinAngel

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-06-2009
Thu, 05-28-2009 - 10:43am

Well I've been on ivillage for nearly 11 years...


I've been on this board off and on for three...so um. yeah I have.

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-17-2009
Thu, 05-28-2009 - 10:45am

ah, 3 isn't a very long time.


i have 3 children. i PTWOH, i've been here a looong time.

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-17-2009
Thu, 05-28-2009 - 10:47am
oh and save me the kumbayah posts, crusader.
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-06-2009
Thu, 05-28-2009 - 10:50am

mmmm...sorry but I don't take directives from you ..or anyone.

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-17-2009
Thu, 05-28-2009 - 10:52am
peace out.
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2009
Thu, 05-28-2009 - 10:56am
So I assume you are Hispanic?
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2009
Thu, 05-28-2009 - 11:00am
I think the main problem here is that the poster is the same ethniticity and is taking the debate personally.
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-17-2009
Thu, 05-28-2009 - 11:02am
no i believe that she claims that her children are.

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