Should I stay or should I go?

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-29-2009
Should I stay or should I go?
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Mon, 05-18-2009 - 2:36pm

Hi ladies! it is so nice to be here and vent vent vent vent!!! I would like to share with you guys what is been BOTHERING me for a while now.

I'm 30 my husband is 50 (doesn't look like 50 AT ALL!) we have a 1 year old boy.

We both have good jobs (diferent cities) we've live in different states since we met. I don't like what I do and I would like to change my career and go back again to Graduate School for another major.

I am an engineer and he is an economist, I want to go back to school for a PhD in Psychology, but first I want to stay at home with my baby until he is ready to go to school and then I could go back to school. This sound like a plan since DH is getting a FANTASTIC job . I mean good benefits, good money, very nice city, etc etc etc.

The problem is:

To do so I have to leave my job and I am scared to death!!! what if we don't work out very well? I will be regreting all my life having left a good job. What I would do if we divorce? Start from zero homeless?

Since he is going to be the one making the money how does that is going to work out? He says he will support me always, and he's been trying to convince me to stay at home with our baby but I've been reluctant (reason why we live in diferent cities) to the idea of not having my own money. He is a very generous man, but with a bit of mood swings. We will be living together for the first time since tomorrow,( since he is in academia he is coming to spend the whole summer here at my city ) I guess I will take it from there and see how we work out as a couple.

WHAT DO YOU THINK?

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iVillage Member
Registered: 03-17-2009
Thu, 05-28-2009 - 11:03am
no she claims her adopted children are.
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2009
Thu, 05-28-2009 - 11:07am
Again, I said I have known someone who has done so in the past.
iVillage Member
Registered: 05-19-2009
Thu, 05-28-2009 - 11:08am
Well gee that's basically answering no questions.

In the frequently relevant (to so many debates on Ivillage) words of Inigio Montoya from The Princess Bride "You keep using that

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iVillage Member
Registered: 02-24-2009
Thu, 05-28-2009 - 11:10am
Indeed, such a surprise, lol.
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2009
Thu, 05-28-2009 - 11:19am
lol!!! Oh, she knows the last part ;)
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-17-2009
Thu, 05-28-2009 - 11:20am
i answered.
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2009
Thu, 05-28-2009 - 11:20am
Again, no experience-how can you be with 4%??!!! :)
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-17-2009
Thu, 05-28-2009 - 11:22am
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2009
Thu, 05-28-2009 - 11:22am
4%
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2009
Thu, 05-28-2009 - 11:27am
:)

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