Should I stay or should I go?

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-29-2009
Should I stay or should I go?
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Mon, 05-18-2009 - 2:36pm

Hi ladies! it is so nice to be here and vent vent vent vent!!! I would like to share with you guys what is been BOTHERING me for a while now.

I'm 30 my husband is 50 (doesn't look like 50 AT ALL!) we have a 1 year old boy.

We both have good jobs (diferent cities) we've live in different states since we met. I don't like what I do and I would like to change my career and go back again to Graduate School for another major.

I am an engineer and he is an economist, I want to go back to school for a PhD in Psychology, but first I want to stay at home with my baby until he is ready to go to school and then I could go back to school. This sound like a plan since DH is getting a FANTASTIC job . I mean good benefits, good money, very nice city, etc etc etc.

The problem is:

To do so I have to leave my job and I am scared to death!!! what if we don't work out very well? I will be regreting all my life having left a good job. What I would do if we divorce? Start from zero homeless?

Since he is going to be the one making the money how does that is going to work out? He says he will support me always, and he's been trying to convince me to stay at home with our baby but I've been reluctant (reason why we live in diferent cities) to the idea of not having my own money. He is a very generous man, but with a bit of mood swings. We will be living together for the first time since tomorrow,( since he is in academia he is coming to spend the whole summer here at my city ) I guess I will take it from there and see how we work out as a couple.

WHAT DO YOU THINK?

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iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2009
Thu, 05-28-2009 - 11:31am
:)
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2009
Thu, 05-28-2009 - 11:32am
I thought she just said SHE became a citizen...hmmm...
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2009
Thu, 05-28-2009 - 11:32am
Interesting.....thanks :) RI???????
iVillage Member
Registered: 06-27-1998
Thu, 05-28-2009 - 12:06pm

I thought you said that wasn't enough experience, now it is?

PumpkinAngel

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-17-2009
Thu, 05-28-2009 - 12:21pm
that's what i'm thinking.
iVillage Member
Registered: 12-07-2003
Thu, 05-28-2009 - 12:45pm
Did that person apply for citizenship? Permanent residency? Temporary worker's status? How much (total) did that person spend? How long did it take them? Do you know how many (and which kind) of forms the person you knew had to fill out?
baby in clothes basket
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Registered: 04-22-2005
Thu, 05-28-2009 - 1:32pm




iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2009
Thu, 05-28-2009 - 4:08pm
Nope
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2009
Thu, 05-28-2009 - 4:10pm
Did that person apply for citizenship?--yes
Permanent residency?--yes
Temporary worker's status?--no
How much (total) did that person spend?--a couple thousand
How long did it take them?--couple of years
Do you know how many (and which kind) of forms the person you knew had to fill out?--can find out as I don't know the EXACT forms. Do you know the EXACT forms-without googling of course :) needed? How do you know that?
iVillage Member
Registered: 05-13-2009
Thu, 05-28-2009 - 4:33pm
Why do you feel free to speculate about about my state of residence and my ethnicity, as I have never provided the information. Yet you get rather upset when people ask or speculate about your location (post 1028). Isn't that a double-standard?

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