Should I stay or should I go?
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| Mon, 05-18-2009 - 2:36pm |
Hi ladies! it is so nice to be here and vent vent vent vent!!! I would like to share with you guys what is been BOTHERING me for a while now.
I'm 30 my husband is 50 (doesn't look like 50 AT ALL!) we have a 1 year old boy.
We both have good jobs (diferent cities) we've live in different states since we met. I don't like what I do and I would like to change my career and go back again to Graduate School for another major.
I am an engineer and he is an economist, I want to go back to school for a PhD in Psychology, but first I want to stay at home with my baby until he is ready to go to school and then I could go back to school. This sound like a plan since DH is getting a FANTASTIC job . I mean good benefits, good money, very nice city, etc etc etc.
The problem is:
To do so I have to leave my job and I am scared to death!!! what if we don't work out very well? I will be regreting all my life having left a good job. What I would do if we divorce? Start from zero homeless?
Since he is going to be the one making the money how does that is going to work out? He says he will support me always, and he's been trying to convince me to stay at home with our baby but I've been reluctant (reason why we live in diferent cities) to the idea of not having my own money. He is a very generous man, but with a bit of mood swings. We will be living together for the first time since tomorrow,( since he is in academia he is coming to spend the whole summer here at my city ) I guess I will take it from there and see how we work out as a couple.
WHAT DO YOU THINK?

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true.
but aren't many on green cards in the process of u.s. citizenship?
Probably, but that really has nothing to do with it. Also, you have to have been a green card holder for a certain amount of time before you can start the application process for citizenship.
It used to be quite common for people NOT to apply for citizenship and just live and work for decades as green card holders. As far as I know that has been made more difficult after 9/11 and people are now pressured to become citizens.
Lastly some people come from countries that do not allow dual citizenship. This means that if they become US citizenship, they lose their original citizenship. So, many people refrain for that reason, not wanting to lose the ability to go back home and not wanting to lose, in many cases, superior benefits in their countries of origin.
I think it would depend more on the job skill than citizenship, time anyway.
I worked for years for a company where one of the owners was not an American citizen, citizenship was not an issue.
PumpkinAngel
I don't think it has to be....the company I worked for the owner had no intention of becoming a US citizen, even though he had a green card to work in the US...way too many advantages for keeping his own citizenship at the time.
PumpkinAngel
....and returning to live like Kings in their own country?
PumpkinAngel
Really. And for those who are here first as temporary workers, it's a lot worse. First, that status only lasts two or three years and then must be renewed. When it's up for renewal, you can't submit the paperwork to renew it until 3 months before your temp work card expires. That would be fine, but the immigration office is 6 months behind on processing paperwork. If you are not approved, you will have been living here illegally for 3 months before you are notified. And if you apply for permanent residency, there is a fair chance that you won't be approved unless you are married to an American citizen or are wealthy or have other circumstances in your favor. So you have basically spent thousands of dollars for absolutely nothing.
/end_rant
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