Should I stay or should I go?

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-29-2009
Should I stay or should I go?
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Mon, 05-18-2009 - 2:36pm

Hi ladies! it is so nice to be here and vent vent vent vent!!! I would like to share with you guys what is been BOTHERING me for a while now.

I'm 30 my husband is 50 (doesn't look like 50 AT ALL!) we have a 1 year old boy.

We both have good jobs (diferent cities) we've live in different states since we met. I don't like what I do and I would like to change my career and go back again to Graduate School for another major.

I am an engineer and he is an economist, I want to go back to school for a PhD in Psychology, but first I want to stay at home with my baby until he is ready to go to school and then I could go back to school. This sound like a plan since DH is getting a FANTASTIC job . I mean good benefits, good money, very nice city, etc etc etc.

The problem is:

To do so I have to leave my job and I am scared to death!!! what if we don't work out very well? I will be regreting all my life having left a good job. What I would do if we divorce? Start from zero homeless?

Since he is going to be the one making the money how does that is going to work out? He says he will support me always, and he's been trying to convince me to stay at home with our baby but I've been reluctant (reason why we live in diferent cities) to the idea of not having my own money. He is a very generous man, but with a bit of mood swings. We will be living together for the first time since tomorrow,( since he is in academia he is coming to spend the whole summer here at my city ) I guess I will take it from there and see how we work out as a couple.

WHAT DO YOU THINK?

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iVillage Member
Registered: 02-22-2007
Fri, 05-29-2009 - 1:55pm

>> So they come not intending to become citizens, correct? <<

I don't think there is one answer to that question. Some might, some might not. Some might want to establish legal residency rather than become citizens. Undocumented workers are not a monolithic, lock-stepping group of people.

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Why hide your light under a bushel of bears, I ask you?

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Why hide your light under a bushel of bears, I ask you?
iVillage Member
Registered: 02-22-2007
Fri, 05-29-2009 - 2:00pm
That's even assuming that person has access to a computer!

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Why hide your light under a bushel of bears, I ask you?

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Why hide your light under a bushel of bears, I ask you?
iVillage Member
Registered: 02-22-2007
Fri, 05-29-2009 - 2:03pm
Was she married to a U.S. citizen? It's already been said that that is one of the easiest and fastest ways to get through the process.

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Why hide your light under a bushel of bears, I ask you?

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Why hide your light under a bushel of bears, I ask you?
iVillage Member
Registered: 02-22-2007
Fri, 05-29-2009 - 2:04pm
You know, that did sound fast. Perhaps it was an app for a green card.

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Why hide your light under a bushel of bears, I ask you?

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Why hide your light under a bushel of bears, I ask you?
iVillage Member
Registered: 12-07-2003
Fri, 05-29-2009 - 2:10pm
Post 938 or so. Plus, in several posts you stated that the reason people stay illegal is that they don't want to pay taxes on their income-- not because of the difficult and expensive process to become and remain legal.
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iVillage Member
Registered: 05-09-2009
Fri, 05-29-2009 - 7:25pm
If you knew , you wouldn't have to say "a couple thousand", or "a couple years".

 

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2009
Fri, 05-29-2009 - 7:29pm

Sorry, I am getting old and it has been a few years so I don't remember the EXACT amount of time and money. Shoot me-lol!! ;)

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-08-2009
Sat, 05-30-2009 - 3:36am

My son was/is an independent contractor.

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2009
Sun, 05-31-2009 - 11:03am

Did he do it on a bicycle?-lol!!

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2009
Mon, 06-01-2009 - 8:02am

ITA with you. Something doesn't seem to be adding up. IME Newspapers are a big business now and the day of the bicycle delivery boys are over.

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