Should I stay or should I go?

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-29-2009
Should I stay or should I go?
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Mon, 05-18-2009 - 2:36pm

Hi ladies! it is so nice to be here and vent vent vent vent!!! I would like to share with you guys what is been BOTHERING me for a while now.

I'm 30 my husband is 50 (doesn't look like 50 AT ALL!) we have a 1 year old boy.

We both have good jobs (diferent cities) we've live in different states since we met. I don't like what I do and I would like to change my career and go back again to Graduate School for another major.

I am an engineer and he is an economist, I want to go back to school for a PhD in Psychology, but first I want to stay at home with my baby until he is ready to go to school and then I could go back to school. This sound like a plan since DH is getting a FANTASTIC job . I mean good benefits, good money, very nice city, etc etc etc.

The problem is:

To do so I have to leave my job and I am scared to death!!! what if we don't work out very well? I will be regreting all my life having left a good job. What I would do if we divorce? Start from zero homeless?

Since he is going to be the one making the money how does that is going to work out? He says he will support me always, and he's been trying to convince me to stay at home with our baby but I've been reluctant (reason why we live in diferent cities) to the idea of not having my own money. He is a very generous man, but with a bit of mood swings. We will be living together for the first time since tomorrow,( since he is in academia he is coming to spend the whole summer here at my city ) I guess I will take it from there and see how we work out as a couple.

WHAT DO YOU THINK?

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iVillage Member
Registered: 01-08-2009
Mon, 06-01-2009 - 10:56am

She may not be joking. American companies have been known to go down to central America and recruit workers. One of them was Armour, who operate a lot of meat packing plants in the upper midwest. My church denomination was concerned about the housing issues for the large number of single males in the community and built some dorm-type housing in Omaha for workers at the local meat packing plants. Armour actually took pictures of those rooms and included them in the video they used to recruit people to live there; they said it was "company provided housing." And these videos actually showed people the best/safest ways to get into the country illegally and provided names and numbers for them.

None of them were living like kings in their home countries before OR after the crackdowns where these training videos were confiscated.

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-08-2009
Mon, 06-01-2009 - 10:57am
She's really under no obligation to explain why she chose her poster name; nor does she seem to be in any hurry to do so. I'd let it go if I were you.
iVillage Member
Registered: 01-08-2009
Mon, 06-01-2009 - 11:02am
We have a very talented Brazilian choir director at church who has lived in the country legally for many years but has to spend thousands of dollars in legal fees to get his green card extended every time it comes up. Last time he actually threw a benefit concert for himself because he had accrued over 10K in legal fees trying to get the whole work permit thing straightened out. We tease him all the time he should just get married to an American citizen and have done with it.
iVillage Member
Registered: 01-08-2009
Mon, 06-01-2009 - 11:12am
Did he do what on a bicycle?
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2009
Mon, 06-01-2009 - 12:22pm
So your church built housing for these illegal aliens? :0
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2009
Mon, 06-01-2009 - 12:24pm

"I'd let it go if I were you."

Why? Is this a threat?

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-08-1998
Mon, 06-01-2009 - 12:25pm
Oh brother....
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2009
Mon, 06-01-2009 - 12:25pm
Wow!!
You are kidding me right? Your church is not looking too good today :0
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2009
Mon, 06-01-2009 - 12:26pm
Deliver the papers.
iVillage Member
Registered: 10-08-1998
Mon, 06-01-2009 - 12:30pm

First, no where did she say they were illegal.


Second, even if they are illegal, can you show me the passage in the bible that states you should only help those who are living in the country legally?

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