Should I stay or should I go?

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-29-2009
Should I stay or should I go?
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Mon, 05-18-2009 - 2:36pm

Hi ladies! it is so nice to be here and vent vent vent vent!!! I would like to share with you guys what is been BOTHERING me for a while now.

I'm 30 my husband is 50 (doesn't look like 50 AT ALL!) we have a 1 year old boy.

We both have good jobs (diferent cities) we've live in different states since we met. I don't like what I do and I would like to change my career and go back again to Graduate School for another major.

I am an engineer and he is an economist, I want to go back to school for a PhD in Psychology, but first I want to stay at home with my baby until he is ready to go to school and then I could go back to school. This sound like a plan since DH is getting a FANTASTIC job . I mean good benefits, good money, very nice city, etc etc etc.

The problem is:

To do so I have to leave my job and I am scared to death!!! what if we don't work out very well? I will be regreting all my life having left a good job. What I would do if we divorce? Start from zero homeless?

Since he is going to be the one making the money how does that is going to work out? He says he will support me always, and he's been trying to convince me to stay at home with our baby but I've been reluctant (reason why we live in diferent cities) to the idea of not having my own money. He is a very generous man, but with a bit of mood swings. We will be living together for the first time since tomorrow,( since he is in academia he is coming to spend the whole summer here at my city ) I guess I will take it from there and see how we work out as a couple.

WHAT DO YOU THINK?

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iVillage Member
Registered: 01-08-2009
Mon, 06-01-2009 - 12:30pm

The church, with the approval of the city, built housing for people who were living in unsanitary or illegal conditions or on the street, in an effort to reduce the crime rate and to make residential neighborhoods safer. The denomination was not required to check into the immigration status of the people who were getting housing, nor am I aware of any landlord in that state (Nebraska) being required to do so.

Weren't you the one complaining about your daughter getting harassed by groups of men living illegally in rented housing in your area? And about the groups of those here illegally driving down property values in your area? This initiative was in place to try to alleviate those kinds of situations.

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-08-2009
Mon, 06-01-2009 - 12:32pm
Why would I let it go if I were you? Because I would have figured out that she has no intention of answering me, and I would not wish to waste board by continuing to ask for personal information that is not forthcoming.
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2009
Mon, 06-01-2009 - 12:36pm
Sorry, done with this part of the debate.
No experience :(
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2009
Mon, 06-01-2009 - 12:38pm

The church, with the approval of the city, built housing for people who were living in unsanitary or illegal conditions or on the street, in an effort to reduce the crime rate and to make residential neighborhoods safer. The denomination was not required to check into the immigration status of the people who were getting housing, nor am I aware of any landlord in that state (Nebraska) being required to do so.

So they allowed the illegal problem into your area. Gotcha :0

Weren't you the one complaining about your daughter getting harassed by groups of men living illegally in rented housing in your area?--no, please show me that post

And about the groups of those here illegally driving down property values in your area?--fortunately this is not in my town but it is in my area.

This initiative was in place to try to alleviate those kinds of situations.---no, it was just allowing more illegals to come into your area and get illegal jobs. Not much different, IMO.

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-08-2009
Mon, 06-01-2009 - 12:40pm

Kidding you? Why would I be kidding you? What is wrong with hiring a Brazilian, who is here legally, to direct our choir? He's a great musician and a great human being and an asset to our community!

<http://www.columbiachorale.com/director.php>

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-08-2009
Mon, 06-01-2009 - 12:41pm
Sometimes he used a bike but more often a scooter because it was easier to go up people's sidewalks and get the paper to their doors. And on icy days, neither, it was safer to go on foot. Why do you ask?
iVillage Member
Registered: 01-08-2009
Mon, 06-01-2009 - 12:42pm
I can't imagine why it would be so interesting to you!
iVillage Member
Registered: 10-08-1998
Mon, 06-01-2009 - 12:44pm
Then
iVillage Member
Registered: 01-08-2009
Mon, 06-01-2009 - 12:50pm
Why did you bring it up, then, if you were not interested in debating it?
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2009
Mon, 06-01-2009 - 12:50pm

Kidding that this person would have a benefit concert for himself to pay for his work permit :0

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