Should I stay or should I go?

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Registered: 01-29-2009
Should I stay or should I go?
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Mon, 05-18-2009 - 2:36pm

Hi ladies! it is so nice to be here and vent vent vent vent!!! I would like to share with you guys what is been BOTHERING me for a while now.

I'm 30 my husband is 50 (doesn't look like 50 AT ALL!) we have a 1 year old boy.

We both have good jobs (diferent cities) we've live in different states since we met. I don't like what I do and I would like to change my career and go back again to Graduate School for another major.

I am an engineer and he is an economist, I want to go back to school for a PhD in Psychology, but first I want to stay at home with my baby until he is ready to go to school and then I could go back to school. This sound like a plan since DH is getting a FANTASTIC job . I mean good benefits, good money, very nice city, etc etc etc.

The problem is:

To do so I have to leave my job and I am scared to death!!! what if we don't work out very well? I will be regreting all my life having left a good job. What I would do if we divorce? Start from zero homeless?

Since he is going to be the one making the money how does that is going to work out? He says he will support me always, and he's been trying to convince me to stay at home with our baby but I've been reluctant (reason why we live in diferent cities) to the idea of not having my own money. He is a very generous man, but with a bit of mood swings. We will be living together for the first time since tomorrow,( since he is in academia he is coming to spend the whole summer here at my city ) I guess I will take it from there and see how we work out as a couple.

WHAT DO YOU THINK?

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Registered: 05-08-2009
Wed, 05-20-2009 - 8:55am

ITA with you.

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Registered: 05-08-2009
Wed, 05-20-2009 - 9:15am
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Registered: 05-09-2009
Wed, 05-20-2009 - 9:16am

My daughter's school has preschool and Pre-k

 

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Registered: 05-09-2009
Wed, 05-20-2009 - 9:18am

Ok, every time I edit my posts, my edits don't publish.

 

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Registered: 02-24-2009
Wed, 05-20-2009 - 9:23am

I don't think there is a clear definition of the differences. Where we lived in the US, all "nice" middle class families sent their kids to preschool, starting at either age 2 or 3. The pricier preschools would tout their hifalutin' "curriculum," which might include things like Greg the Guitarman coming once a week to play music and sing with the kids or a "Spanish class" (for 2yos, insert eyeroll) etc. There were only public pre-K classes in "diverse" areas, IOW not typically in the areas with the pricy preschools. However, lower income areas did have many daycare centers, most of which did the same things with/for the kids that the preschools did.

In big US cities where the public schools are considered unusable by many middle class parents, preschools take on a whole other importance as "feeders" to the "right" private schools. So parents compete to get their kids into the right preschool in the hope of having the preschool director help their child ace the IQ tests for entrance into the right private school.

Here in Greece, preschool is uncommon and daycare is not that widely used (lower income families often use grandma, higher income families have live-in maids who mind the kids or British or French nannies), but OTOH virtually all schools, private or public, have pre-K.

In Denmark, school start is delayed with kids entering K at age 6. There is no pre-K nor preschools, but there is universal, public daycare, which kids typically start at age 1. The daycares do many of the same things good US preschools do and then some (from what I have seen).

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Wed, 05-20-2009 - 9:25am

I think a great deal of the time the content is the same, it's just a name change.

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 05-08-2009
Wed, 05-20-2009 - 9:25am

Much

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Registered: 05-08-2009
Wed, 05-20-2009 - 9:30am
Really,
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Registered: 06-27-1998
Wed, 05-20-2009 - 9:30am

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In the schools districts, private preschools or?

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 01-09-2009
Wed, 05-20-2009 - 9:38am

Interesting.....


In almost 13 years, 5 kids, two states, and a dh who is involved is education/politics at the state level,

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Ducky

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