Should I stay or should I go?

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Registered: 01-29-2009
Should I stay or should I go?
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Mon, 05-18-2009 - 2:36pm

Hi ladies! it is so nice to be here and vent vent vent vent!!! I would like to share with you guys what is been BOTHERING me for a while now.

I'm 30 my husband is 50 (doesn't look like 50 AT ALL!) we have a 1 year old boy.

We both have good jobs (diferent cities) we've live in different states since we met. I don't like what I do and I would like to change my career and go back again to Graduate School for another major.

I am an engineer and he is an economist, I want to go back to school for a PhD in Psychology, but first I want to stay at home with my baby until he is ready to go to school and then I could go back to school. This sound like a plan since DH is getting a FANTASTIC job . I mean good benefits, good money, very nice city, etc etc etc.

The problem is:

To do so I have to leave my job and I am scared to death!!! what if we don't work out very well? I will be regreting all my life having left a good job. What I would do if we divorce? Start from zero homeless?

Since he is going to be the one making the money how does that is going to work out? He says he will support me always, and he's been trying to convince me to stay at home with our baby but I've been reluctant (reason why we live in diferent cities) to the idea of not having my own money. He is a very generous man, but with a bit of mood swings. We will be living together for the first time since tomorrow,( since he is in academia he is coming to spend the whole summer here at my city ) I guess I will take it from there and see how we work out as a couple.

WHAT DO YOU THINK?

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Registered: 05-08-2009
Wed, 05-20-2009 - 9:52am

Pre-K is free in public schools,

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Registered: 12-07-2003
Wed, 05-20-2009 - 9:55am
The daycare Samantha goes to has "preschool" for the little ones for a little while each morning. But as far as I know the curriculum for the under 3 set is something like: Sit in a circle and listen to the teacher read Chicka Chicka Boom Boom. Sit in a circle and sing "Twinkle, Twinkle, Little Star." Count to 10. Mix finger paint colors together to see what colors you can make.
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Registered: 12-07-2003
Wed, 05-20-2009 - 9:56am
So basically pre-K is Head Start and preschool is private pre-K.
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Registered: 02-24-2009
Wed, 05-20-2009 - 10:02am
What are the conditions for getting the voucher?
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Registered: 03-26-2009
Wed, 05-20-2009 - 10:08am

"He will also be ready to start preschool at age three.

I realize that this isn't true for everyone, but ime, most preschool programs start at four years old, not three."

Maybe it goes by areas but IME preschool starts at 2 1/2.

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Registered: 03-26-2009
Wed, 05-20-2009 - 10:10am
And as I have stated, IME, preschool starts at 2 1/2 (some even off at 2 yrs. old). When my kids were in dc, the "official" preschool class started at 3 yrs. old. The 2 yr. old class was called the toddler class. 3 and 4 yr. olds preschool. 4 and 5 yr. olds Pre-K.
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Registered: 03-26-2009
Wed, 05-20-2009 - 10:11am
Our districts free Pre-K is a lotto.
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Registered: 05-08-2009
Wed, 05-20-2009 - 10:13am

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Registered: 05-08-2009
Wed, 05-20-2009 - 10:20am

No,

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Registered: 05-08-2009
Wed, 05-20-2009 - 10:25am

Proof of residence,

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