Should I stay or should I go?

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Registered: 01-29-2009
Should I stay or should I go?
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Mon, 05-18-2009 - 2:36pm

Hi ladies! it is so nice to be here and vent vent vent vent!!! I would like to share with you guys what is been BOTHERING me for a while now.

I'm 30 my husband is 50 (doesn't look like 50 AT ALL!) we have a 1 year old boy.

We both have good jobs (diferent cities) we've live in different states since we met. I don't like what I do and I would like to change my career and go back again to Graduate School for another major.

I am an engineer and he is an economist, I want to go back to school for a PhD in Psychology, but first I want to stay at home with my baby until he is ready to go to school and then I could go back to school. This sound like a plan since DH is getting a FANTASTIC job . I mean good benefits, good money, very nice city, etc etc etc.

The problem is:

To do so I have to leave my job and I am scared to death!!! what if we don't work out very well? I will be regreting all my life having left a good job. What I would do if we divorce? Start from zero homeless?

Since he is going to be the one making the money how does that is going to work out? He says he will support me always, and he's been trying to convince me to stay at home with our baby but I've been reluctant (reason why we live in diferent cities) to the idea of not having my own money. He is a very generous man, but with a bit of mood swings. We will be living together for the first time since tomorrow,( since he is in academia he is coming to spend the whole summer here at my city ) I guess I will take it from there and see how we work out as a couple.

WHAT DO YOU THINK?

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iVillage Member
Registered: 05-08-2009
Wed, 05-20-2009 - 10:29am

That is how it worked for us when my oldest was pre-k age,

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-07-2003
Wed, 05-20-2009 - 10:29am
Is Head Start part of the free pre-K program? I mean the Head Start kids go because they are eligible financially. But there are extra spaces so other kids can go as long as there are spaces and they get a voucher?
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Registered: 03-26-2009
Wed, 05-20-2009 - 10:36am

"ever IME, if you are not 5 by sept first you do not go to kdg, no exception, nothing to do with budget. It is Law. IME."

This goes by individual districts. Our cut off is December 1st. My son was 4 when he started kdg this past Sept.

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2009
Wed, 05-20-2009 - 10:36am
ITA with you as this is the same for our district. The only difference is that ours is a lotto system and not every child will be able to get in free. There is still Pre-K in the district but with a fee.
iVillage Member
Registered: 01-09-2009
Wed, 05-20-2009 - 10:37am

What are you talking about?


I just figured that credentials were important to you, since you listed yours.

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Ducky

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Registered: 03-26-2009
Wed, 05-20-2009 - 10:37am
Our camp is also a lotto system. There are so many families who want to get it that it is the only way to do it.
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Registered: 03-26-2009
Wed, 05-20-2009 - 10:39am

"I do not think it is misunderstood by most parents...

Okay, maybe it's perception. The perception by educators is that kindy is the new 1st grade. Not b/c they "push" the kids. B/c most kids start kindy already knowing how to walk in a line, sit in a group, listen during story time, etc. These are all things that the kids used to learn in kindy, 30 or so years ago. If they were to try and teach those things now, it would be a waste of everyone's time. Do you disagree?"

ITA with you.

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-08-2009
Wed, 05-20-2009 - 10:41am
I agree with you,
iVillage Member
Registered: 01-09-2009
Wed, 05-20-2009 - 10:44am
So, what kind of *readyness* are kids getting in preschool at 2 1/2 that other kids aren't getting?

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Ducky

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Registered: 05-08-2009
Wed, 05-20-2009 - 10:48am

No, head start is head start,

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