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| Mon, 05-18-2009 - 2:36pm |
Hi ladies! it is so nice to be here and vent vent vent vent!!! I would like to share with you guys what is been BOTHERING me for a while now.
I'm 30 my husband is 50 (doesn't look like 50 AT ALL!) we have a 1 year old boy.
We both have good jobs (diferent cities) we've live in different states since we met. I don't like what I do and I would like to change my career and go back again to Graduate School for another major.
I am an engineer and he is an economist, I want to go back to school for a PhD in Psychology, but first I want to stay at home with my baby until he is ready to go to school and then I could go back to school. This sound like a plan since DH is getting a FANTASTIC job . I mean good benefits, good money, very nice city, etc etc etc.
The problem is:
To do so I have to leave my job and I am scared to death!!! what if we don't work out very well? I will be regreting all my life having left a good job. What I would do if we divorce? Start from zero homeless?
Since he is going to be the one making the money how does that is going to work out? He says he will support me always, and he's been trying to convince me to stay at home with our baby but I've been reluctant (reason why we live in diferent cities) to the idea of not having my own money. He is a very generous man, but with a bit of mood swings. We will be living together for the first time since tomorrow,( since he is in academia he is coming to spend the whole summer here at my city ) I guess I will take it from there and see how we work out as a couple.
WHAT DO YOU THINK?

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I love Missou. Show Me is an awesome state motto. I'll try to cover, but I feel it could be an epic fail.
Enjoy your trip, I hope be here when you get back, but you never know what the ptb will decide.
Actually, a lot of undocumented workers have fake SSNs, so they do pay taxes.
I'm not saying that doing so under false pretenses makes it OK, but many are certainly taxpayers.
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Why hide your light under a bushel of bears, I ask you?
Why hide your light under a bushel of bears, I ask you?
So Folinis did not speak for you, as well as to you in the second paragraph in this post? It was actually pretty obvious that it did not represent your position, but thanks for the confirmation.
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We have a local program where workers here illegally register with the municipalities, get a Social Security number, get hired properly with their rights protected and pay taxes. (There are many stories of employers taking advantage of vulnerable day laborers in the US illegally....OBVIOUSLY.)
I guess we're not allowed to address how non-English speaking, illegal immigrants are taken advantage of by employers? Otherwise we're criticized as prejudiced on this board? (NOT by you, but I hope you know what I'm responding to.)
How nice that some people prefer to sweep this huge problem under the rug in the interest of lashing out as pejudiced at anyone who dares to raise the topic. I'm glad my state is a little more sophisticated than that and actually tries to solve the problem.
i would guess that's how many get caught...what comes to mind are sneaks who steal a dead person's ss number.
Just so you know, the SSNs are usually completely random, made up, and this is not the way illegals get caught. Most of the time, the made up SSNs are simply processed through the system, the taxes paid and so on.
When illegals do get caught, it is usually either because a factory is raided, or when they try to go in or our of the country or by some coincidence. There is no real system for identifying and catching illegals, and the IRS is only allowed to share its information (such as a fake SSN, for example) with ICE under specific circumstances. There isn't even a reliable mechanism for deporting illegals who have served time in jail. They are supposed to be deported after serving their time, but a tally done after 9/11 showed that there were 300,000 illegals with felony convictions most likely still in country.
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