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| Mon, 05-18-2009 - 2:36pm |
Hi ladies! it is so nice to be here and vent vent vent vent!!! I would like to share with you guys what is been BOTHERING me for a while now.
I'm 30 my husband is 50 (doesn't look like 50 AT ALL!) we have a 1 year old boy.
We both have good jobs (diferent cities) we've live in different states since we met. I don't like what I do and I would like to change my career and go back again to Graduate School for another major.
I am an engineer and he is an economist, I want to go back to school for a PhD in Psychology, but first I want to stay at home with my baby until he is ready to go to school and then I could go back to school. This sound like a plan since DH is getting a FANTASTIC job . I mean good benefits, good money, very nice city, etc etc etc.
The problem is:
To do so I have to leave my job and I am scared to death!!! what if we don't work out very well? I will be regreting all my life having left a good job. What I would do if we divorce? Start from zero homeless?
Since he is going to be the one making the money how does that is going to work out? He says he will support me always, and he's been trying to convince me to stay at home with our baby but I've been reluctant (reason why we live in diferent cities) to the idea of not having my own money. He is a very generous man, but with a bit of mood swings. We will be living together for the first time since tomorrow,( since he is in academia he is coming to spend the whole summer here at my city ) I guess I will take it from there and see how we work out as a couple.
WHAT DO YOU THINK?

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While I do think that many of them may be looking for that kind of work because they are illegal, I also think that it's not the only possible reason. Some people are just desperate for income, and if they haven't found a steady job yet, it beats doing nothing. I'd rather see a person on the curb waiting to get picked up for any last-minute job than see a person on the curb with a cardboard sign asking for handouts.
If you were actually "well aware" of that, you would not have made the claim that:
"They are not legal. That is why they are looking for these off the book jobs. They can't get a legal job without a green card."
in response to the question of how you know they are illegal.
However big the problem of illegal aliens may or may not be in your part of the country, you could not possibly know that every person waiting on a corner to be picked up for work is an illegal alien unless you asked each and every one of them.
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