Should I stay or should I go?

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Registered: 01-29-2009
Should I stay or should I go?
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Mon, 05-18-2009 - 2:36pm

Hi ladies! it is so nice to be here and vent vent vent vent!!! I would like to share with you guys what is been BOTHERING me for a while now.

I'm 30 my husband is 50 (doesn't look like 50 AT ALL!) we have a 1 year old boy.

We both have good jobs (diferent cities) we've live in different states since we met. I don't like what I do and I would like to change my career and go back again to Graduate School for another major.

I am an engineer and he is an economist, I want to go back to school for a PhD in Psychology, but first I want to stay at home with my baby until he is ready to go to school and then I could go back to school. This sound like a plan since DH is getting a FANTASTIC job . I mean good benefits, good money, very nice city, etc etc etc.

The problem is:

To do so I have to leave my job and I am scared to death!!! what if we don't work out very well? I will be regreting all my life having left a good job. What I would do if we divorce? Start from zero homeless?

Since he is going to be the one making the money how does that is going to work out? He says he will support me always, and he's been trying to convince me to stay at home with our baby but I've been reluctant (reason why we live in diferent cities) to the idea of not having my own money. He is a very generous man, but with a bit of mood swings. We will be living together for the first time since tomorrow,( since he is in academia he is coming to spend the whole summer here at my city ) I guess I will take it from there and see how we work out as a couple.

WHAT DO YOU THINK?

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Registered: 02-24-2009
Tue, 05-26-2009 - 2:58pm
In theory yes, in practice not that often. Many fake numbers go straight through the system without being detected. If detected, the person will offer a "correction" and it will take an age before that comes back, if it ever does.
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Registered: 08-29-2002
Tue, 05-26-2009 - 3:08pm

What point are you trying to prove? Unless you asked every single person hanging out on a corner waiting to be picked up for a job, you cannot possibly know about the residency status of those people. You can certainly speculate, but you cannot actually know for sure.

I can't for the life of me understand in what way that basic fact could possibly be related to your personal info.

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Tue, 05-26-2009 - 3:16pm

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What you are claiming and I quoted, that many are not American taxpayers.


PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 03-26-2009
Tue, 05-26-2009 - 3:18pm
Because it is a known fact that these are illegal aliens waiting for jobs everyday. They live in this one area (not the only area though) and there has been protests for years. There was a movie made about them.
The legal ones are working at jobs.


Edited 5/26/2009 3:56 pm ET by coconutshrimp
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Registered: 03-26-2009
Tue, 05-26-2009 - 3:18pm
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Registered: 06-27-1998
Tue, 05-26-2009 - 3:19pm

How are you familiar with this?

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Tue, 05-26-2009 - 3:22pm

How do you know?

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 03-26-2009
Tue, 05-26-2009 - 3:22pm

Again, this is in my area and I am very familiar with it. It has been going on for many years. Many protests, a movie, etc.

Why would I have to be one or hire one to be familiar with what is going on in my area?

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Registered: 03-26-2009
Tue, 05-26-2009 - 3:22pm
See my other posts.
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Registered: 06-27-1998
Tue, 05-26-2009 - 3:22pm

What movie?


PumpkinAngel

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