Should I stay or should I go?

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-29-2009
Should I stay or should I go?
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Mon, 05-18-2009 - 2:36pm

Hi ladies! it is so nice to be here and vent vent vent vent!!! I would like to share with you guys what is been BOTHERING me for a while now.

I'm 30 my husband is 50 (doesn't look like 50 AT ALL!) we have a 1 year old boy.

We both have good jobs (diferent cities) we've live in different states since we met. I don't like what I do and I would like to change my career and go back again to Graduate School for another major.

I am an engineer and he is an economist, I want to go back to school for a PhD in Psychology, but first I want to stay at home with my baby until he is ready to go to school and then I could go back to school. This sound like a plan since DH is getting a FANTASTIC job . I mean good benefits, good money, very nice city, etc etc etc.

The problem is:

To do so I have to leave my job and I am scared to death!!! what if we don't work out very well? I will be regreting all my life having left a good job. What I would do if we divorce? Start from zero homeless?

Since he is going to be the one making the money how does that is going to work out? He says he will support me always, and he's been trying to convince me to stay at home with our baby but I've been reluctant (reason why we live in diferent cities) to the idea of not having my own money. He is a very generous man, but with a bit of mood swings. We will be living together for the first time since tomorrow,( since he is in academia he is coming to spend the whole summer here at my city ) I guess I will take it from there and see how we work out as a couple.

WHAT DO YOU THINK?

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iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2009
Tue, 05-26-2009 - 3:23pm
I would rather not give our personal info of where I live online. Sorry :(
iVillage Member
Registered: 06-27-1998
Tue, 05-26-2009 - 3:24pm

That's what I thought.


PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 08-29-2002
Tue, 05-26-2009 - 3:28pm

A known fact that every single one of them is an illegal alien? So someone interviewed every single person waiting for a job and found that 100% of the people there are illegal aliens? And you've seen the results of this study?

"The legal ones are working at jobs. They pay rent/mortgage. They pay their taxes."

This statement is completely beside the point. Plenty of legal residents do not pay taxes because they have off the books jobs. Plenty of American citizens also avoid paying taxes by doing things off the book. Not every legal resident or citizen pays taxes (or rent/mortgage for that matter). Plenty of illegal aliens pay taxes as well as rent/mortgage.

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-22-2007
Tue, 05-26-2009 - 3:30pm
Yeah, probably not so much.

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Why hide your light under a bushel of bears, I ask you?

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Why hide your light under a bushel of bears, I ask you?
iVillage Member
Registered: 02-22-2007
Tue, 05-26-2009 - 3:34pm
Not finally, but I am, and I do, and it never occurred to me that most/all of the guys waiting for work on the corner were illegal. Some probably are, sure, but most/all? Nah.

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Why hide your light under a bushel of bears, I ask you?

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Why hide your light under a bushel of bears, I ask you?
iVillage Member
Registered: 02-22-2007
Tue, 05-26-2009 - 3:36pm
Plenty of undocumented workers also pay rent/mortgage and TAXES.

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Why hide your light under a bushel of bears, I ask you?

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Why hide your light under a bushel of bears, I ask you?
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2009
Tue, 05-26-2009 - 3:36pm
Again, I do not want to put my private info online. Sorry :(


Edited 5/26/2009 3:36 pm ET by coconutshrimp
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2009
Tue, 05-26-2009 - 3:40pm
Well 3,000 people in one area have been and still are doing it everyday of the year.
iVillage Member
Registered: 06-27-1998
Tue, 05-26-2009 - 3:45pm

LoL...


PumpkinAngel

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-27-1998
Tue, 05-26-2009 - 3:49pm

Really?

PumpkinAngel

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