Should I stay or should I go?

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Registered: 01-29-2009
Should I stay or should I go?
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Mon, 05-18-2009 - 2:36pm

Hi ladies! it is so nice to be here and vent vent vent vent!!! I would like to share with you guys what is been BOTHERING me for a while now.

I'm 30 my husband is 50 (doesn't look like 50 AT ALL!) we have a 1 year old boy.

We both have good jobs (diferent cities) we've live in different states since we met. I don't like what I do and I would like to change my career and go back again to Graduate School for another major.

I am an engineer and he is an economist, I want to go back to school for a PhD in Psychology, but first I want to stay at home with my baby until he is ready to go to school and then I could go back to school. This sound like a plan since DH is getting a FANTASTIC job . I mean good benefits, good money, very nice city, etc etc etc.

The problem is:

To do so I have to leave my job and I am scared to death!!! what if we don't work out very well? I will be regreting all my life having left a good job. What I would do if we divorce? Start from zero homeless?

Since he is going to be the one making the money how does that is going to work out? He says he will support me always, and he's been trying to convince me to stay at home with our baby but I've been reluctant (reason why we live in diferent cities) to the idea of not having my own money. He is a very generous man, but with a bit of mood swings. We will be living together for the first time since tomorrow,( since he is in academia he is coming to spend the whole summer here at my city ) I guess I will take it from there and see how we work out as a couple.

WHAT DO YOU THINK?

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iVillage Member
Registered: 06-27-1998
Tue, 05-26-2009 - 3:50pm

<<The legal ones are working at jobs. They pay rent/mortgage. They pay their taxes. >>


This is also true for those who work illegally.


PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Tue, 05-26-2009 - 3:52pm

That's what I thought, there isn't any proof of this claim, it's a leap to judgement.


PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Tue, 05-26-2009 - 3:54pm

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Very familiar?

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 03-26-2009
Tue, 05-26-2009 - 3:57pm
No, there is proof. You can google if you would like but I am not giving out my personal info online. Thanks :)
iVillage Member
Registered: 06-27-1998
Tue, 05-26-2009 - 3:57pm

I have, they don't answer any of those questions.

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 03-26-2009
Tue, 05-26-2009 - 3:58pm

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Very familiar? So you are involved?

No involvement. It can easily be googled if you would like :)

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Because otherwise, unless you are familiar with the details (tax records, employer and employee records) it's just an assumption.

Again, if you need to see all the facts, you can google it. I am not willing to give out my personal info online to where I live. Thanks :)

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2009
Tue, 05-26-2009 - 3:59pm
Again, you can google and see the information. I am not giving out my personal info where I live online. Thanks :)
iVillage Member
Registered: 06-27-1998
Tue, 05-26-2009 - 4:00pm

Okay, so no movie either.


PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 05-13-2009
Tue, 05-26-2009 - 4:00pm
and ethnicity.
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2009
Tue, 05-26-2009 - 4:01pm
Oh, yes, there was a movie. You can google if you would like :)

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