Should I stay or should I go?

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-29-2009
Should I stay or should I go?
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Mon, 05-18-2009 - 2:36pm

Hi ladies! it is so nice to be here and vent vent vent vent!!! I would like to share with you guys what is been BOTHERING me for a while now.

I'm 30 my husband is 50 (doesn't look like 50 AT ALL!) we have a 1 year old boy.

We both have good jobs (diferent cities) we've live in different states since we met. I don't like what I do and I would like to change my career and go back again to Graduate School for another major.

I am an engineer and he is an economist, I want to go back to school for a PhD in Psychology, but first I want to stay at home with my baby until he is ready to go to school and then I could go back to school. This sound like a plan since DH is getting a FANTASTIC job . I mean good benefits, good money, very nice city, etc etc etc.

The problem is:

To do so I have to leave my job and I am scared to death!!! what if we don't work out very well? I will be regreting all my life having left a good job. What I would do if we divorce? Start from zero homeless?

Since he is going to be the one making the money how does that is going to work out? He says he will support me always, and he's been trying to convince me to stay at home with our baby but I've been reluctant (reason why we live in diferent cities) to the idea of not having my own money. He is a very generous man, but with a bit of mood swings. We will be living together for the first time since tomorrow,( since he is in academia he is coming to spend the whole summer here at my city ) I guess I will take it from there and see how we work out as a couple.

WHAT DO YOU THINK?

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iVillage Member
Registered: 05-08-2009
Wed, 05-20-2009 - 11:21am

That is a no brainer...All those things you pointed out that kdg already know how to do.

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-08-2009
Wed, 05-20-2009 - 11:29am
That makes no sense oct 2 is after sept so of course she was able to attend if you changed districts or counties
iVillage Member
Registered: 01-09-2009
Wed, 05-20-2009 - 11:36am

your missing my point,

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Ducky

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-09-2009
Wed, 05-20-2009 - 11:45am

If it's a no brainer, then what exactly are you debating?


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Ducky

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-09-2009
Wed, 05-20-2009 - 11:52am

IME< A waiver comes only to change districts or counties nothing to do with the

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Ducky

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-08-2009
Wed, 05-20-2009 - 12:01pm

Agian,

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2009
Wed, 05-20-2009 - 12:07pm
ITA with you, IME.
iVillage Member
Registered: 01-09-2009
Wed, 05-20-2009 - 12:08pm

So, let's say that you live in a district with a Dec 1st cut off date.

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Ducky

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-13-2009
Wed, 05-20-2009 - 12:10pm

Huh? I did not change districts. In my particular state, it is a state law that determines the cutoff date for K, not the school district.

The principal was responsible for granting the waiver based the following criteria that included the following: class room availability, the preK evaluation of the child, and the K teacher's recommendation. Your experience my be different, but it is certainly not universal.

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-09-2009
Wed, 05-20-2009 - 12:15pm
And, (since I'm stubborn and I've been told that this is absolutely not true) I would add that class room availability is dependant on budget,.

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Ducky

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