Should I stay or should I go?

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Registered: 01-29-2009
Should I stay or should I go?
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Mon, 05-18-2009 - 2:36pm

Hi ladies! it is so nice to be here and vent vent vent vent!!! I would like to share with you guys what is been BOTHERING me for a while now.

I'm 30 my husband is 50 (doesn't look like 50 AT ALL!) we have a 1 year old boy.

We both have good jobs (diferent cities) we've live in different states since we met. I don't like what I do and I would like to change my career and go back again to Graduate School for another major.

I am an engineer and he is an economist, I want to go back to school for a PhD in Psychology, but first I want to stay at home with my baby until he is ready to go to school and then I could go back to school. This sound like a plan since DH is getting a FANTASTIC job . I mean good benefits, good money, very nice city, etc etc etc.

The problem is:

To do so I have to leave my job and I am scared to death!!! what if we don't work out very well? I will be regreting all my life having left a good job. What I would do if we divorce? Start from zero homeless?

Since he is going to be the one making the money how does that is going to work out? He says he will support me always, and he's been trying to convince me to stay at home with our baby but I've been reluctant (reason why we live in diferent cities) to the idea of not having my own money. He is a very generous man, but with a bit of mood swings. We will be living together for the first time since tomorrow,( since he is in academia he is coming to spend the whole summer here at my city ) I guess I will take it from there and see how we work out as a couple.

WHAT DO YOU THINK?

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Registered: 12-07-2003
Tue, 05-26-2009 - 4:07pm

Here's a movie I happened to find about illegal immigrants. In this synopsis, take note of the following sentence:

"Many were illegal immigrants, and most found ready employment in Suffolk County's thriving landscaping, construction, and restaurant industries."

http://www.pbs.org/pov/pov2004/farmingville/about.html

baby in clothes basket



Edited 5/26/2009 4:08 pm ET by geschichtsgal
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Registered: 02-22-2007
Tue, 05-26-2009 - 4:08pm

OK. I still don't make the assumption that most/all are illegal.

Honestly, I think you are painting with a very broad brush.

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Why hide your light under a bushel of bears, I ask you?

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Why hide your light under a bushel of bears, I ask you?
iVillage Member
Registered: 02-22-2007
Tue, 05-26-2009 - 4:09pm
Oh, right.... THAT......

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Why hide your light under a bushel of bears, I ask you?

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Why hide your light under a bushel of bears, I ask you?
iVillage Member
Registered: 05-13-2009
Tue, 05-26-2009 - 4:13pm
My guess is that the poster must be an undercover agent for ICE. That would be the only relevant, personal reason for not responding to your question.
iVillage Member
Registered: 06-27-1998
Tue, 05-26-2009 - 4:15pm

Oh okay, that's what I thought.

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Tue, 05-26-2009 - 4:18pm

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No involvement, yet you claim that you are very familiar....those contradict each other.

PumpkinAngel

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-27-1998
Tue, 05-26-2009 - 4:21pm

Again, I'm not asking or even wanting personal information from you.

PumpkinAngel

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-27-1998
Tue, 05-26-2009 - 4:23pm

Yea well, I was trying to give the benefit of doubt here on that point, asking for the movie and/or other support but it seems that that is the only basis, doesn't it?


PumpkinAngel

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-27-1998
Tue, 05-26-2009 - 4:26pm

Why?

PumpkinAngel

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-29-2002
Tue, 05-26-2009 - 4:27pm

You don't have to put any private info online to answer the question, but thanks anyway :-).

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