Should I stay or should I go?

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-29-2009
Should I stay or should I go?
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Mon, 05-18-2009 - 2:36pm

Hi ladies! it is so nice to be here and vent vent vent vent!!! I would like to share with you guys what is been BOTHERING me for a while now.

I'm 30 my husband is 50 (doesn't look like 50 AT ALL!) we have a 1 year old boy.

We both have good jobs (diferent cities) we've live in different states since we met. I don't like what I do and I would like to change my career and go back again to Graduate School for another major.

I am an engineer and he is an economist, I want to go back to school for a PhD in Psychology, but first I want to stay at home with my baby until he is ready to go to school and then I could go back to school. This sound like a plan since DH is getting a FANTASTIC job . I mean good benefits, good money, very nice city, etc etc etc.

The problem is:

To do so I have to leave my job and I am scared to death!!! what if we don't work out very well? I will be regreting all my life having left a good job. What I would do if we divorce? Start from zero homeless?

Since he is going to be the one making the money how does that is going to work out? He says he will support me always, and he's been trying to convince me to stay at home with our baby but I've been reluctant (reason why we live in diferent cities) to the idea of not having my own money. He is a very generous man, but with a bit of mood swings. We will be living together for the first time since tomorrow,( since he is in academia he is coming to spend the whole summer here at my city ) I guess I will take it from there and see how we work out as a couple.

WHAT DO YOU THINK?

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iVillage Member
Registered: 12-07-2003
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 9:22am
It's like some kind of bizarre hazing ritual.
baby in clothes basket
iVillage Member
Registered: 05-09-2009
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 9:40am
It's regularly 115+ here in the summer, and I can't even imagine wearing wool.. LOL.

 

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-09-2009
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 9:43am
Well, that and it's almost never as cool as 90 degrees in the summer.

 

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-27-1998
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 9:55am

Thank you.


PumpkinAngel

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-27-1998
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 10:02am

Then don't.


PumpkinAngel

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2009
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 10:04am
I WAS speaking of my area ONLY each and everytime :)
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2009
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 10:06am
Thanks for you insults but if you REALLY knew me, as a person, and not a "poster" on a messageboard, you would know that I am not a racist in any form. I am speaking from experience and telling the facts.
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2009
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 10:07am
Nevermind, I am on ignore anyway :(
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2009
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 10:10am
Do you pass illegal immigrants standing on corners everyday? You ARE in Texas, correct?
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2009
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 10:13am
I guess you would be fine with your teenage dd being harassed by these illegals going to a store while they are waiting for a job? You would be fine with having 30 men living in a house next to you? Especially with a teenage dd? You wouldn't care that the value of your house would plummet and if you did want to move you could not because of this problem?

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