Should I stay or should I go?

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Registered: 01-29-2009
Should I stay or should I go?
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Mon, 05-18-2009 - 2:36pm

Hi ladies! it is so nice to be here and vent vent vent vent!!! I would like to share with you guys what is been BOTHERING me for a while now.

I'm 30 my husband is 50 (doesn't look like 50 AT ALL!) we have a 1 year old boy.

We both have good jobs (diferent cities) we've live in different states since we met. I don't like what I do and I would like to change my career and go back again to Graduate School for another major.

I am an engineer and he is an economist, I want to go back to school for a PhD in Psychology, but first I want to stay at home with my baby until he is ready to go to school and then I could go back to school. This sound like a plan since DH is getting a FANTASTIC job . I mean good benefits, good money, very nice city, etc etc etc.

The problem is:

To do so I have to leave my job and I am scared to death!!! what if we don't work out very well? I will be regreting all my life having left a good job. What I would do if we divorce? Start from zero homeless?

Since he is going to be the one making the money how does that is going to work out? He says he will support me always, and he's been trying to convince me to stay at home with our baby but I've been reluctant (reason why we live in diferent cities) to the idea of not having my own money. He is a very generous man, but with a bit of mood swings. We will be living together for the first time since tomorrow,( since he is in academia he is coming to spend the whole summer here at my city ) I guess I will take it from there and see how we work out as a couple.

WHAT DO YOU THINK?

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iVillage Member
Registered: 06-27-1998
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 10:25am

I think that is incorrect, not all day laborers are illegal or legal immigrants, some of them are Americans.

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 10:29am

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After reading the description of the film that was linked, those were my thoughts, I could not believe the level of ill feeling towards these workers (who were greatly needed in the area as well) who lived in the area that they worked.


PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 10:31am

I don't get it, you would think that we would have learned from history instead of repeating that history.


PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 04-22-2005
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 10:31am
So what percentage of day laborers in YOUR area are illegal?
85%? 90%? 95%? 99%? Because anything less than 100% indicates that not ALL day laborers are illegal immigrants.
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iVillage Member
Registered: 05-13-2009
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 10:34am

What insult?

Just responding on a debate board to statements you've made and continue to repeat. You say your opinions are not racially motivated, so I won't dispute that, but you have used a broad brush to paint an entire ethnicity as engaging in illegal activity with no facts whatsoever. You seem place the problem of illegal immigration on the day laborer with no nuance, empathy or understanding a complex issue. You continue to insult a entire ethnicity with your disregard for the actual facts.

There are 45 million Hispanic citizens in this country. There soon will be a Hispanic woman on the Supreme Court. It's a proud day for Hispanic Americans.

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Registered: 02-24-2009
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 10:34am

I am just trying to figure out how hooting at girls is something only illegals do. My experience with the phenomenon is quite different. It seems to be a problem that afflicts a subset of the male species regardless of whether they are legal residents of the countries in which they do the hooting.

But perhaps the outrage is not with the hooting, but with the fact that "untermenschen" dare hoot at "white" girls or something.

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-08-1998
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 10:36am
I live in the burbs and have I don't think I have actually ever seen a day labor spot.
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2009
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 10:36am
Thanks for your link but I WAS speaking IME. 4% is not high so I guess it would be harder to speak in experience. Thanks anyway :)
iVillage Member
Registered: 06-27-1998
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 10:37am

<<I guess you would be fine with your teenage dd being harassed by these illegals going to a store while they are waiting for a job? >>


Why do you continue to paint illegal immigrants with such a broad negative brush stroke?

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 10-08-1998
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 10:38am
I'm thinking you may have hit the nail on the head with that one.

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