Should I stay or should I go?

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Registered: 01-29-2009
Should I stay or should I go?
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Mon, 05-18-2009 - 2:36pm

Hi ladies! it is so nice to be here and vent vent vent vent!!! I would like to share with you guys what is been BOTHERING me for a while now.

I'm 30 my husband is 50 (doesn't look like 50 AT ALL!) we have a 1 year old boy.

We both have good jobs (diferent cities) we've live in different states since we met. I don't like what I do and I would like to change my career and go back again to Graduate School for another major.

I am an engineer and he is an economist, I want to go back to school for a PhD in Psychology, but first I want to stay at home with my baby until he is ready to go to school and then I could go back to school. This sound like a plan since DH is getting a FANTASTIC job . I mean good benefits, good money, very nice city, etc etc etc.

The problem is:

To do so I have to leave my job and I am scared to death!!! what if we don't work out very well? I will be regreting all my life having left a good job. What I would do if we divorce? Start from zero homeless?

Since he is going to be the one making the money how does that is going to work out? He says he will support me always, and he's been trying to convince me to stay at home with our baby but I've been reluctant (reason why we live in diferent cities) to the idea of not having my own money. He is a very generous man, but with a bit of mood swings. We will be living together for the first time since tomorrow,( since he is in academia he is coming to spend the whole summer here at my city ) I guess I will take it from there and see how we work out as a couple.

WHAT DO YOU THINK?

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Avatar for rollmops2009
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Registered: 02-24-2009
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 10:40am
Maybe she stops and checks their papers every time she drives by. I lived in LA for a while, I have seen what she describes, but I still wonder how she can be so dead sure that they are all illegal.
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Registered: 03-23-2009
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 10:42am
Some peopel "rise very early" to WOH, even if they dont' absolutley have to. What does that prove, other than work ethic?
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Registered: 04-22-2005
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 10:46am

<<4% is not high>>

We never said the number was high. We said that not all day laborers are non-Americans. SOME are Americans, even if that number is extremely small. So that makes the following statement untrue:

<<"Americans" are NOT standing on the corner everyday waiting for a landscaper or construction truck to come and pick them up for work.>>

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iVillage Member
Registered: 06-27-1998
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 10:47am

No not really, unless you are now saying that you have experience with hiring or being an illegal worker?

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 03-26-2009
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 11:01am

Who are day laborers?1
Day laborers are overwhelmingly Latino; one-third from
Mexico, another third from the rest of Central America, and
the fi nal third including workers from South America.

Just speaking from the facts.....

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Registered: 03-26-2009
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 11:05am

"I am just trying to figure out how hooting at girls is something only illegals do."

Who posted this?

Avatar for rollmops2009
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Registered: 02-24-2009
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 11:11am

It actually reads:

As most would expect, the overwhelming majority of day laborers are Latinos, with a third from Mexico, another third from the rest of Central America, and the remainingthird from South America, the Caribbean, Europe, and Canada. Three percent of ourrespondents were U.S. born. About 71 percent of day laborers have beenin the United States five years or less with14 percent having been here between 6 and 10 years and about 15 percent having beenhere longer than ten years.

As a group. day laborers vary in legal status. For example, 3.1% are U.S. born. Almost16% had documents when they first entered the U.S. Finally, more than a third believed they qualify for permanent residency— of those, 32% intend to apply for permanent residency. Table 1. Country of Origin (n=288)PercentageU.S.3.1Mexico32.8Guatemala17.2Ecuador17.2Honduras8.6El Salvador7.6Peru4.5Other 2 9.0 Source: New York Day Labor Survey, 2003 5 Table 2. Years Living in the United States(n=270)Percentage< 1 Year17.81 – 2 Years34.43 – 5 Years18.96 – 10 Years14.110+ Years14.8 Source: New York Day Labor Survey, 2003

http://www.sscnet.ucla.edu/issr/csup/pubs/papers/pdf/csup3_NYDLS.pdf

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Registered: 03-26-2009
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 11:13am
Who are day laborers?1
Day laborers are overwhelmingly Latino; one-third from
Mexico, another third from the rest of Central America, and
the fi nal third including workers from South America
iVillage Member
Registered: 05-13-2009
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 11:13am

Fact = Overwhelming is not all
Fact = From that pdf, in 2006, 75% of day laborers were undocumented. That means 25% were either American citizens or here on a legal work visa.

Those are the only facts needed to dispute your claim all day laborers are illegal. Thanks for playing, maybe I'll catch you on the next monster subthread.

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Registered: 10-08-1998
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 11:14am
How does that back up your statement that ALL day laborers are illegal immigrants?

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