Should I stay or should I go?

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Registered: 01-29-2009
Should I stay or should I go?
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Mon, 05-18-2009 - 2:36pm

Hi ladies! it is so nice to be here and vent vent vent vent!!! I would like to share with you guys what is been BOTHERING me for a while now.

I'm 30 my husband is 50 (doesn't look like 50 AT ALL!) we have a 1 year old boy.

We both have good jobs (diferent cities) we've live in different states since we met. I don't like what I do and I would like to change my career and go back again to Graduate School for another major.

I am an engineer and he is an economist, I want to go back to school for a PhD in Psychology, but first I want to stay at home with my baby until he is ready to go to school and then I could go back to school. This sound like a plan since DH is getting a FANTASTIC job . I mean good benefits, good money, very nice city, etc etc etc.

The problem is:

To do so I have to leave my job and I am scared to death!!! what if we don't work out very well? I will be regreting all my life having left a good job. What I would do if we divorce? Start from zero homeless?

Since he is going to be the one making the money how does that is going to work out? He says he will support me always, and he's been trying to convince me to stay at home with our baby but I've been reluctant (reason why we live in diferent cities) to the idea of not having my own money. He is a very generous man, but with a bit of mood swings. We will be living together for the first time since tomorrow,( since he is in academia he is coming to spend the whole summer here at my city ) I guess I will take it from there and see how we work out as a couple.

WHAT DO YOU THINK?

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Registered: 11-22-2000
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 11:17am
Thank you.

58 Pairs of Shoes and No Uterus:


iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2009
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 11:19am

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Why do you continue to paint illegal immigrants with such a broad negative brush stroke?

Again, 4% :)

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I wouldn't be fine with that, but I would report it to the authorities just as I would any other illegal activity in my area that I was privy to.

lol!!! Again, 4% :)

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2009
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 11:20am
.....Nevermind-lol!!
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2009
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 11:21am
Thanks for the debate but again, 4% :)
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2009
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 11:25am
Not the same source as I was using. Facts from what I have spoken IME.
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2009
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 11:26am
Sorry you want to end the debate, thanks anyway-see you on the next one :)
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Registered: 06-27-1998
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 11:29am

I think you forgot a bit of that....


http://www.sscnet.ucla.edu/issr/csup/pubs/papers/pdf/csup3_NYDLS.pdf


Various quotes from the above link.


Who are Day Laborers?


As most would expect, the overwhelming majority of day laborers are Latinos, with a third from Mexico, another third from the rest of Central America, and the remaining third from South America, the Caribbean, Europe, and Canada. Three percent of our respondents were U.S. born.


As a group. day laborers vary in legal status. For example, 3.1% are U.S. born. Almost 16% had documents when they first entered the U.S. Finally, more than a third believed they qualify for permanent residency— of those, 32% intend to apply for permanent residency.


The majority of day laborers look for work Monday through Sunday. Twenty-one percent only look for work on the weekdays. Surprisingly, 17 percent of day laborers surveyed reported that they had a job other than seeking work as a jornalero. Of those who have another job, over 60 percent work more than 20 hours a week with mean hours worked totaling 27 hours. When asked whether they would prefer to work as day laborers instead of having a permanent job, an overwhelming majority (81 percent) said they would prefer to have a permanent job.

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 02-24-2009
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 11:29am

What? Are you claiming that you did not get that quote from the paper. You even had the footnote number in there for crying out loud.

Either way, the paper is perfectly credible, but it does show that the last third includes people from South America (you also cut it off badly) EUROPE and CANADA and that some were US born and others were legal as well.

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 11:30am

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 05-13-2009
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 11:31am

The debate has successfully concluded, your premise was false (not all day laborers are Hispanic or illegal) as demonstrated in the document you quoted.

If you have further facts to bring to the debate, or I've misunderstood your premise...bring it on.

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